Unwanted pregnancy

[AlmostCoherent]

Hello

I was due to have the coil fitted next Thursday. My husband doesn't live in the country and we were a bit irresponsible last time he was here, so I had to have the next morning pill. But the blasted thing clearly didn't work because I got two positive tests today.

I already have 3 children, youngest one is already 7.

I'm done. I really can't do this again.

When I first did the tests, I have to say I was a bit happy. But the longer I thought about it, the more I'm sure I don't want this. I booked an initial appointment for next Tuesday to have a termination.

But I've always been dead against abortion. Plus my husband has no biological children and always wanted them.

I don't know what to do.

[scaevola]

You might want to ask to have this moved to Pregnancy Choices (the support section for termination) - there are more posters there with relevant experience/expertise

[AlmostCoherent]

Anyone? :/

[AiryFairyMum]

From your post it sounds like you may want to keep your baby but you're looking for support.

[Mollie3]

Considering all you’ve said I would suggest discuss it with your husband. Might be easier than before with 7 year age gap between baby and next oldest? Older kids could help out with baby too.

[AlmostCoherent]

I can't discuss it with my husband. We don't have a great relationship and this is probably going to be the straw that breaks the camel's back.

Only my youngest wants more siblings. The middle is ok and the eldest hates the idea with a passion.

I have always been against abortions and part of me likes the idea of another baby, but if I'm honest, I'm not sure I can cope. The sleep deprivation, the needs of another age range.

My husband never had to do this and I'm pretty sure the fighting will only become worse.

[AiryFairyMum]

That sounds really tough. Hope you're ok op. Please don't feel pushed into anything. You can make things work whatever you choose. It will be ok.

[AlmostCoherent]

I'm sitting at at bpas waiting room. I can't do this. I just can't.

[GrannySquares]

@AlmostCoherent is everything OK?