I did have another thread but starting a new one just to chat really.
After a condom falling off and a failed MAP, according to approx. 14 tests I am definitely pregnant. Judging by online calculators I am currently 5 weeks and 4 days.
I called the clinic to book a termination on the day I found out, couldn't make an appointment until I was a week late for my period. Called when I was exactly a week late and got the earliest appointment a week tomorrow. By which time I will be 6 weeks and 5 days.
I was content with my decision to terminate. I don't want children, we are in 40k negative equity in a tiny one bed flat so we can't move, DP has just joined the armed forces and will be away from home for 70% of the next three years and has taken more than half a salary cut for the privilege. Ive also just had my probation extended in my new job due to concerns I'm "not fitting in". All in all, having a baby right now is not the right decision, nor is it financially viable, nor do I want to be a mother.
I've also always been totally pro choice. Nobody should be forced to be a mother against their will.
However, I googled it. Stupid. And came across pictures of fetuses just 8 weeks gestated or whatever the term is and it looks just like a real little baby. And now I'm imagining this miniature teeny baby inside me and not the cluster of flesh and cells that I had in my head that wasn't even ANYTHING yet.
For some reason I've also managed to convince myself that it's twins and now basically feel like I'm murdering two little miniature perfect babies.
Where the fuck has this come from?! I feel guilty and ashamed.
I had a termination when I was 18 and felt nothing, it was just a necessary medical procedure.
I don't know what the point of this is but only DP knows, and he would be happy for me to continue the pregnancy so I don't want to talk to him.
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Toystorypants · 25/06/2019 20:31
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