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This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

Pregnancy choices

I miss you so much.

15 replies

My2019Wish · 10/04/2019 01:03

This was you on the 11/4/18 last year. And now I’m drunk and heartbroken and missing you every single day because I was stupid enough to let myselt be pushed into a termination and I don’t know how to cope.

[Edited by MNHQ: Moved to Pregnancy choices board]

I miss you so much.

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cloudymelonade · 10/04/2019 01:05

I'm really sorry for your loss but this really needs to be moved to a different board.

WearsABlackAndLongCoatWrong · 10/04/2019 01:06

I'm so sorry for your loss and your situation.

I hope you are able to make changes in your life.

ThanosSavedMe · 10/04/2019 01:06

I have no advice but just wanted to send you hugs. Take care x

Jaguarana · 10/04/2019 01:07

I've no advice, but I'm so very sorry about what you've been through & I hope you have real life support

My2019Wish · 10/04/2019 01:07

I’m ao sorry if this is on the wrong board. I’m just so so sad

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Brilliantidiot · 10/04/2019 01:12

It will pass, you need to forgive yourself, grieve and start to recover. You will never forget and you will come out the other side a slightly different person, but you will come out the other side.
Did you have Councilling at the time? I had some Councilling years after a termination as I was still struggling. It helped me.
Hang in there OP

For1dayonly · 10/04/2019 01:42

OP I am truly sorry but I understand your heartbreak.
I was pushed into a termination, it took my years to recover, I ended up out every night, drinking excessively, then cocaine, lost my job, everything.
My biggest regret now is the 7 years I fucked up, I couldn't change things, the bastard took so much from me, subconsciously I allowed him keep taking.
I was 22.
Now I am 38. My DH is great 2DC.
Yes I still feel sad, it will always be a part of me.
Deal with it properly with counselling, get help to move on

My2019Wish · 10/04/2019 01:43

@for1dayonly doesn’t it just feel like it takes over every day though. I can’t stand feeling this way anymore.

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Ifonlyfor1day · 10/04/2019 01:53

Yes the pain gets worse, before it gets easier. I wish I had of moved on sooner.
Can you make a little memory box, treat your baby as a loss to weak will, she/he was wanted. I needed to except what I done, but also had to except the situation he put me in, lick my wounds, gain strenght not to be manipulated again.
It does get better, time is a healer, concentrate on getting to your best rather than heading for the worst

TantricTwist · 10/04/2019 01:58

Hi OP I'm so sorry you are feeling so sad.

The samaritans are so good if you want to speak to someone about it all. They are great listeners, as if you are talking to a friend.

Do call them as your head seems to be full of pain right now, and talk it out a little bit.

Ifonlyfor1day · 10/04/2019 02:01

Life truly goes on OP. You can get through it, please look for services to help you get there.

acd2019 · 10/04/2019 19:03

I’m so sorry I know the pain!

Brilliantidiot · 10/04/2019 19:36

How are you today OP? Thinking of you 💐

EmeraldShamrock · 10/04/2019 22:15

OP thinking of you
Are you ok.

SpinningSister · 10/04/2019 22:16

Go to the GP for some help. I am sorry for you

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