Abortion booked help?!

[p3achnation]

Hi, so I have posted on here before about my situation but now my appointment is getting closer it’s becoming more real that I have to make a decision very quickly now.

I’ve known about this pregnancy for 3 weeks now and my first thought was oh crap I cannot keep this baby. I have a beautiful 19 month of DD who I love dearly she is my world. My partner is very supportive and said he will support me whatever decision is choose although he does want to keep this baby.

I’m so worried as I suffered from PND with DD and had a really rough time (she is my first child) I really struggled to adapt with becoming a mum and only just feel like I’m getting myself back and DD is in a nice little routine and things are good atm.

I’m so torn still about what to even though I’ve known for 3 weeks that I’m pregnant. I will be 8 weeks tomorrow. I keep thinking one minute I want to keep this baby and the next I don’t as things a good how they are currently. I’m so confused about what to do, I’ve kind of been pretending this isn’t actually happening until it hit me lastnight that I need to decide pretty quickly now.

Me & OH have only recently started to get back on track after a rough patch like I said DD is in a nice routine and adding a newborn would put strain on this. On the other hand it would be nice for DD to have a sibling close in age. I’m also worried about how I’d cope with 2 being so young as OH works long hours.

Any advice/experiences would be greatly appreciated Thankyou xx

[ButtMuncher]

I have no experience of this situation, but my advice would be to perhaps speak to the counsellors that are on offer to you at the organisation you've booked the termination at. How you're feeling is remarkably common for those who have young children and find themselves pregnant. Whatever you decide, there is no shame if you decide not to continue with the pregnancy. I also had a very difficult period of time after my son was born and in your situation I would have considered the same. Ultimately you have to think about your own mental health - if you feel having another child at this stage is not right for you, then don't feel bad.

The counsellors will be able to go over your thoughts and your decision making process and might help solidify a decision in your mind.

What I would say though is definitely ensure your contraception is up to date, ie, is it working for you, was this an accident or is it something that could potentially happen again?

[ButtMuncher]

Also OP - I'm going to ask MNHQ whether they'd suggest putting this thread in Pregnancy Choices, which is probably a more apt forum for your current concerns x

[AnyaMumsnet]

Hi there OP,

We hope you don't mind, we're going to move this thread over to Pregnancy Choices. We think you'd get better support there.

[Petitprince]

You don't sound like you want a termination. You sound more like you need some support and reassurance from your partner.