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Unexpected 3rd pregnancy

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ningaj Fri 08-Feb-19 18:55:40

I'm 35. I have 2 children (2&4) who I adore, I have a decent job and a lovely husband. Both my children took a year of trying to conceive.

I've had sex once this month (using the withdrawal method), today I just had a feeling. That muzzy headed feeling I got when I was pregnant before, and I realised I was a week or two late. Long story short I'm pregnant.

I'm devastated. I don't want another baby. I hate myself for thinking that, I don't want a termination because of what it means but I also desperately don't want another baby. I could make all the excuses in the world as to why it would be a bad idea to have a third child, but it boils down to - I just can't see myself having another. I know my husband feels the same, even though he tried to hide it and said he'd support me either way.

I can't believe this has happened. I don't know what to do. I don't even have a GP (moved house and haven't re-registered yet). I need practical advice. What do I need to do? What happens at a termination? Will I need time off work?

Thank you for reading xxx

3babyxx Sat 16-Feb-19 17:42:49

Hi didt wanna read and run
I have 3 children my last child was very close to a termination but I didt go through with it as I couldn't . Obviously now I am glad that I didt . But I did have a termination last month due to my youngest being only six months I live on my own with my kids and it's hard work . I had a surgical awwke termination I didt find it painful in the slightest i also had the coil fitted straight after .

You have a first appointment where they check all your bp, they give you a blood test ( finger prick ) and a scan to see how far along you are .. they ask if you want to see

Then they book you in for the second part of the ap.

You go in wait a little while then they call you in you have a little curtain round you next to two other girls . You get undressed put a gown on then go to the theatre room . They scanned me as they was doing it . They put one of those plastic things in you like your having a smear then they inject your cervix to numb it with local then they dilate you a tiny bit ( depends how far you are I was 8 weeks ) then clamp open your cervix and suction the tissue out . I had minimal bleeding . I bled the most because of the coil .

It's your choice whatever is right for your family if you know your 100 percent not wanting another baby then do it . I thought I'd be more upset then I was but tbh I knew it was the right thing for me to do this time

Good luck hope every thing works out for you xx

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