abortion pills

[hannahbellaa]

right before everyone starts too judge me i have thought about nothing but for a while.. i am 7 weeks pregnant and dont see a way out if i keep it.. yes i have a amazing family behind me.. im just not a maternal person and i have just been offered the job of a life time.. i was going too keep the baby at 1st but the more i think the more its just not right.. i feel awful! i have my appointment tomorrow at 10.30 for the tablets.. but i have too be in work the day after. what is the pain like is it unbareable!

[traveller11]

IIRC the pain was still quite intense the day after. But the whole 'process' after taking the second pill took about 5 hours of excruciating pain for me from start to finish (but it didn't start until 2 hours after taking the last pill as well) and I needed the following day off to recover mentally as well.

I hope it all goes smoothly for you Hannah

[Lymphy]

No judgment here, but pleased take the following day off ( and more) you’ll need time to recover emotionally as well as physically and from your OP you say you feel awful, your going to need some time.
I’ve not had first hand experience but refer women often, It can vary between women tbh for some it can be like a very heavy, cramps period others may find it more difficult. They will talk you through it all at your appointment but there is always a chance you may have to stay in, or return in subsequent days so please take some time off

[hannahbellaa]

its my last week at my old job.. i would feel awful too let them down. everyone said its like bad period pains but i have never had period pains before so i cant go off that!

do you take both tablets in the same appointment reading online there is so many different stories x

[measureformeasure]

No experience of taking the pills but did not want to read and run. No judgment from me either, you need to do what is right for you. I agree with other posters, you need to give yourself time to recover from the physical and emotional effects of the procedure. I hope your appointment goes ok.

[Continue1]

No judgement here but when I had a termination it was over 3 days.
First day was double checking I wanted this, the risks and doing a scan.
Two days later I had to take two pills, that was to stop the pregnancy.
Then 24 hours later I had the tablets inserted and I was given antibiotic to take.
The pain for me was so bad, I couldn't have worked through it. It was like a heavy period, but very very intense.
Hope you're okay Op

[IHaveBrilloHair]

No judgement at all, but you will not be able to work.

[BunsOfAnarchy]

Id take a day or two off.
I had the first pill....threw up like never before about 2 hours later.
Went in a day or two later for the second part of the termination. Once i took the pills it was some silly amount of pain. Bought tears to my eyes.
I think the contracting pain lasted on and off a day or two. But the bleeding was intense. I needed a day off the day after.
Id look to have the day after off. U may not need it but just in case.
Hope all goes okay xx

[traveller11]

hannah my tablets were taken 24 hours apart then bought home a third one to insert to finish the job.

Is there any paperwork from your clinic stating their procedures?

[Tutlefru]

No judgment here OP.

If it’s anytjknf like a miscarriage it will be cramps in your pelvic area. A hot water bottle may ease them along with painkillers.

Maybe as for this to be moved from AIBU.

[instasham]

@hannahbellaa

If it’s misoprostol you’re given then it’s what I took for a miscarriage and it is very painful. It is not a period pain. It is like a labour pain.

I also had to go back to hospital as I had a significant loss of blood and the pain was incredible intense. I’ve been through labour and I can tell you it was similar.

Don’t be fooled by the “heavy period” it can be a lot worse than that.

[ChromeFlowers]

I took the pills and honestly I felt zero pain, they gave me codeine to take home but I never touched it. If I remember I took 2 paracetamol and I didn't feel anything.

I passed the clots around 5 hours after taking the pills, bled for around a week after. I went back to work the next day and I was fine. I know all experiences aren't as easy/pain free as mine, but sometimes you only hear the worst

[hannahbellaa]

thank you all so mych inwas worried about posting on this site.. but no i didnt get any paper work.. it was just a phone call and a appointment made.. if i remember rightky they said too prepare too be there all day but normally its a 4 hour slot! i probably will have too take the day off.. im not a tough cookie at all! if i have the wednesday off i domt have too be in until 4 the day after so i should be ok for that! thisnis where all goes wrong and ill be ill for weeks! xx

[EnglishRose13]

Absolutely no judgement here.

I went back to work the day after. It was awful but I did manage, though it was probably a short shift (was a few years ago now so I can't quite remember).

I'd call in sick. You'll need a day just for you.

[Jaffacakebeast]

The pain really can vary, so you could possible work through it? The amount of blood at work wouldn’t be manageable in my experience tho. The time also isn’t the same for every1. On the day of my 2nd tablet I had to stay in hospital until the bleeding calmed down, don’t know if that’s how it still works. But ppl were leaving after 3 hours, other having to stay for 12 hours. Can’t you arrange to take the 2nd tablet on the Saturday.

[Charlie97]

No judgement at all BUT you need to be much kinder to yourself than you are. Take at least the next day off and more if needed. If you were hit by a car your work would cope, so assume the same scenario!

[Lymphy]

Hopefully it goes as smoothly as it can for you best wishes to you

[hannahbellaa]

well i have been awake all night.. my boyfriwnd has gone mad about it all and is now currently on the couch not speaking too me.. i cant have tgis baby it wouldnt be fair on us all.. he said for me too have it abd give it too him.. i dont think he understands.. why are men so selfish xx

[traveller11]

hannah how are you feeling now? Hope they had some type of councillor at the appointment to help you process your boyfriends reaction x

[PineapplePower]

Is there any reason you won’t consider surgical abortion? I think it’s a lot easier in ways, especially this early. I was considering between the two and really thought surgery was the way to go, it’s very quick and a lot less painful. I’ve asked around to people who’ve had both types and almost to a woman they said surgical was easier.

[ErickBroch]

You can't go into work, it can take time to pass the foetus, which you would not want to do at work.

[LiquoricePickle]

I'm sorry you're going through this.

Just for the record men aren't all selfish and he's allowed to have feelings too. Of course, you get to make the final call, but it would be completely abnormal for him to have no reaction. I imagine this is hard for him too.

[Idlikeabunchofbananasplease]

I just wanted to say no judgement here sending lots of hugs and hope you are ok

[hannahbellaa]

yeah i understand its hard for him but at the sane time he has no job prospects and we arent even together anymore really he has another address he stays at.. just last night i asked him too stay over just so i wasnt on my own.. mistake that was! i wouldnt leave a goldfish with him he cant even look after him self! and i was offered the surgical method but i went ahead with the tablets just so it was done xx

[hannahbellaa]

idlikeabunchofbannas brilliant name! but thank you so much its needed xx

[SerenaOverjoyed]

Ignore your bf if he can't manage his own feelings. I'm sure it's tough for him too but that's not what you need right now

I don't think you can wear tampons due to infection risk. The bleeding can be heavy and sudden, and it can be sporadic. I wouldn't go to work tbh.