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TFMR 22 weeks

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Treaclepie19 Mon 10-Dec-18 16:09:32

We found out today after months of worrying and tests that our baby would be very unwell if he were born... if he survived at all.
We have a termination booked for Friday and I'm so scared. I don't even know where to begin.
Just really getting it all out but wondering if anyone has any experience or wisdom?

littlepooch Mon 10-Dec-18 22:27:58

I haven't been through this personally but I wanted to say how sorry I am. You must be in bits.

I'm sure more knowledgeable posters will be able to help


Treaclepie19 Tue 11-Dec-18 00:17:40

Thank you xxx

Beyondhope Tue 11-Dec-18 21:27:03

Treacle I am so sorry to read your post. I have been where you are. Last Christmas I gave birth to my tiny sleeping little boy after we had a tfmr for chromosomal and issues with the structure of his heart. Feeling scared is normal. I am here if you want to chat or ask any questions. Lots of love to you. flowers

Treaclepie19 Tue 11-Dec-18 21:53:40

Thank you so much @Beyondhope
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss flowers
That sounds very similar to the problems our little boy has.
I just don't know how to cope with all of this. It's the injection early tomorrow. Which feels so, so wrong.
Me and my husband are both in a mess tonight.

Beyondhope Wed 12-Dec-18 08:34:49

I will be thinking of you treacle. It’s going to be a tough time for you and your husband but lean on each other for support. The midwife I had was amazing and really helped me during my hospital stay. I’m here if you want to talk.

Treaclepie19 Wed 12-Dec-18 11:28:46

@Beyondhope thank you so much.
This morning was horrific. I just made myself detach completely so i could deal with it later. I can't believe what we've just done. I feel awful... even though I know it's for our littlest boy in the long run.

Beyondhope Wed 12-Dec-18 11:33:59

Just take it easy Treacle. It’s such a hard time. And the fact it’s Christmas I think makes a horrible situation worse. When do you go back for delivery?

Treaclepie19 Wed 12-Dec-18 11:49:57

We go back Friday at 10.
I'm just trying to sort all the practical stuff for now.

Beyondhope Thu 13-Dec-18 19:26:24

Will be thinking of you tomorrow Treacle. flowers

Treaclepie19 Thu 13-Dec-18 20:19:05

Thank you xxx
As it is we've had to come in early because I wasn't well and had a rash. They started the induction at 5.30 so just waiting.

Elpheba Thu 13-Dec-18 20:23:37

Can’t imagine how difficult this is- sending strength and so many hugs

ohwownosnow Fri 14-Dec-18 20:51:53

Thinking of you OP thanks

Treaclepie19 Sat 15-Dec-18 08:38:58

Thank you ladies.
Our beautiful boy was born sleeping at 9.42 yesterday morning. Thank you for all the support xxx

ohwownosnow Sat 15-Dec-18 08:54:06

Sending you lots of love to your beautiful boy and you x

littlepooch Sat 15-Dec-18 13:19:18

Lots of love to you and your family.


Treaclepie19 Mon 17-Dec-18 22:34:35

Thank you xxx

RandomWok Mon 17-Dec-18 22:36:44

A lot of love coming your way. Be kind to yourself x x x x x

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