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Hoping my abortion will fail! Chances?

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JaneStudy Mon 05-Nov-18 21:06:21

Hello, i'm 24, partner is 28. Found out i was pregnant 2 weeks ago. Wasnt expecting it! I didnt know what to do so we rung an abortion clinic because of the waiting list for 2 weeks away so we'd have time to think but also that option.

Over those 2 weeks, i became attached to my baby but knew i had a uni degree to complete and no job.

Abortion day arrived and i was certain i was going to keep it but went anyway for the scan and to be sure. Found out we were meant to be having triplets but one hadnt formed probably so was just a floating cell and 2 identical twins. This was a shocker!! And the idea of twins petrified me. The midwife give us time to think but my partner immedietly said "we cant deal with twins" and i agreed because at the time i was shocked and genuinly believed i couldnt cope. I saw the scan and the heartbeats sad

2 hour wait for the medical pill. My boyfriend was googling twin videos and seemed excited but he didnt really say he wanted to keep them.

Anyway, we were called in and I took one pill orally and 4 others were inserted in the vagina by the midwife. My boyfriend did look deeply upset before i took them but I thought we both knew what we wanted since in the 2 weeks prior he had been adament they were just a bag of cells.

I also have a kidney infection so i have quite bad back pain. The midwife said the sac should pass by 8pm.

I felt fine, and bleeding started at 5pm. This is when i broke down in tears and realised my mistake. I felt fine but was bleeding until 7:30pm where i had a 5 minute cramp (which wasnt too painful, just felt more like my back was hurting and i needed a poop) so went for a poop and i then i felt fine, cramp was gone, but still bleeding of course.

Anyways, i've been bleeding for 2 days now, and it's usually just watery blood - sometimes just a line, sometimes spread around the pad.

No cramps, and only a few blood clots - some black. But no sign of sac? Well, I havent felt or notice it pass?

I'm praying this is a failed abortion! Is it possible one could survive? Or it could be the floating cell which is leaving my body?

I take a pregnancy test next saturday and i'm hoping it comes back positive. I made a massive mistake and cant stop crying sad

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Ameliarose16 Mon 05-Nov-18 21:12:09

I'm so sorry to read this and you're feeling this way. I have no advice. I'm hoping you get what you want x have you spoken to your partner about this?xxx

Lollypop701 Mon 05-Nov-18 21:29:32

I feel for you, such a massive rollercoaster. Get some counselling , whatever happens you need to get some support x

Ilovesuperman Tue 06-Nov-18 10:53:35

Hi I have had an early abortion before - you should have a number you can call for support and or a scan. The first pill stops the hormone. This can be reversed with progesterone injections but the others can't be reversed sadly.

You made a choice you felt was right at the time and no one can take that away from you. It's ok to feel sad about the loss too even if you choose it. I hope you get the healing you desire soon x

Ilovesuperman Tue 06-Nov-18 19:01:20

Are you here Jane study ? Are you ok?

Caprisunorange Tue 06-Nov-18 19:03:55

OP you posted this before didn’t you? Are you ok?

PlateOfBiscuits Tue 06-Nov-18 19:06:10

@JaneStudy how are you?

JaneStudy Sat 10-Nov-18 19:35:57

Hi everyone! Sorry i thought i posted this in the wrong posted elsewhere:
I'm coping much better than I was! (Next saturday cant come quick enough though!!).
I'm still hoping at least one of my babies have survived but at least the shock and depressed-like feeling is over.
I still feel pregnant - sore boobs and cant stop eating. But i understand that is normal for abortion too- that it takes a while for the hormones to leave the body.
When i took my original pregnancy test, it was clearblue digital which said I was 3 + weeks, and i was intrigued last night (wanted to see if it had gone down to 2 weeks) so took one of my spares and i'm still 3+ weeks. However, i'm not getting my hopes high since, like I said, i'll still have hormones!
I am beginning to understand that the likelihood of any surviving is low.
Just a quick question:
If one twin can survive miscarriage, then essentially cant one twin survive abortion? Considering theyre very similar body-wise apart from one is natural and one is medically-induced?

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Boo2you Sun 11-Nov-18 09:11:40

I can't really answer your question but I though a twin would leave the body in mc as it didn't attach properly however in a termination the first part ends the pregnancy and the second part induces labour but I hope one has survived for you - I did read a story recently where a baby survived a termination xx

mummyhsb Wed 28-Nov-18 10:49:51

I wish I could give you a huge hug sad just remember this will be OK, you will be fine and this hurt and pain will pass. You are so incredibly strong OP, I can't even tell you! I'm so sorry you had to experience this, I hope you have the right support around you. Please don't deal with this alone, I hope you are recovering well. Thinking of you so much right now and sending well wishes and loads of hugs x

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