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Continuing a pregnancy after a failed abortion

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busymamakins1 Thu 20-Sep-18 19:05:10


To give you a bit of background information, I'm a married mum with 5 beautiful kids by my hubby, and I run a cosmetic business. My youngest is 10 months and my husband had the snip in June as we felt our family was full enough!!!! In August I started to feel unwell and was horrified to find out I was pregnant. We decided not to keep the baby, and I opted for a medical abortion at 5weeks 6 days. The nurse I saw at Marie Stopes was unbelievably cold and uncaring, and as soon a left the clinic I felt like I'd made a horrible mistake and I removed the tablets. I spent the next week in a lot of pain, assuming the treatment had worked but found out last week that the baby is there and has a heartbeat.
So I just want to know if anyone has any experience of continuing a pregnancy after a failed termination, I feel sad knowing I may have caused it harm. Thank you.

Runrunrudolf Wed 26-Sep-18 22:12:24

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this.

I have no real advice on what may happen as everyone is different and I'm not a professional so my best advice is to talk to a Doctor or Family planning clinic.
I went to them over my failed abortion they were super lovely and didn't force me into anything.

A sexual health clinics may also be good if you have no FPCs. And seeing your GP will depend on the type of person they are.

Have you talked to anyone about this? Maybe not a counsellor but a family member? It must be so horrible to have to go through flowers

RainbowTortoise Fri 05-Oct-18 13:33:56

How are you OP?

Panicmode1 Fri 05-Oct-18 13:45:24

flowers. What a difficult situation.

A friend of mine went through with a pregnancy after a failed abortion. Her circumstances were very different (failure of contraception after she slept with someone she knew, but not v well - he refused to have anything to do with her when she told him....) and it was very difficult for her at the time, but she wouldn't have been without her son and he was born totally heathly and is absolutely fine and flying at school etc.

I would also second the suggestion of counselling. I had some after we had a contraceptive failure and I got pg with number four which I had been absolutely adamant I didn't want. I felt VERY negatively towards the baby for most of my first and second trimesters, but counselling really got my head in the right space, and once I realised it wasn't the end of the world, it made the rest of the pregnancy ok. (I adore him and wouldn't be without him now smile.

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