Surgical Termination this week ex partner not interested Worried

[Lucy299]

Hi everyone

I’m new to this and don’t usually post but I really need to vent and maybe somebody advice.

I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago I have been with my now ex partner for a year and a half and at first it was great however the last few months it has been very toxic and on and off.

When I found out I was pregnant we weren’t getting on however when I told him I was not expecting the reaction I gotta. Obviously the baby wasn’t planned and it was a shock to both of us he has not bothered in 3 weeks he doesn’t care and has not bothered to have not one adult conversation with me since I found out. He’s made it clear it’s my choice but we haven’t explored what it would be like if I kept it if I didn’t etc the usually conversations you would expect in this situation. I was honestly in complete shock at his lack of support and it took me a good two weeks after ringing his phone numerous times endless messages and endless arguments to come to terms with whatever decision I make I’ll be going through it without him.

It was not an easy decision to make to have a termination as I do want a child but not in a situation like this and not with him he is 32 years old with the mind of a Teenager. I have also recently got a mortgage and live alone and there is no way I’d be able to afford that and child care I also have no family local to me to help.

It has now got so pathetic he has resorted to getting his mother involved who will text me now and then to see if I am okay although nothing from him and now with the termination looming (a few days time ) I’m sure I will be hearing from her again. I honestly do not understand how his mother is not telling him to step up and be there for me however it’s now to late I wouldn’t want him at the termination if he begged me to come I am going with a friend.

He has never acted like this towards me before and I honestly don’t know why at the time I need him most he has decided to treat me this way whilst pregnant with his child. We argued but I never not once had him down as this type of guy and it has literally broken my heart.

I decided to go no contact as the arguing calling and texting mainly me to him and him ignoring was just making me feel even worse it’s nearly been a week and I’ve heard nothing from him only from his mum.

Him and his mum both know when my termination is and I really just want to be left alone I don’t want him to contact me before or after and I’m debating wether to even reply to his mum but don’t want to come across rude.

Thanks for listening ! Xx

[faeriequeen]

Hope you're ok op.

[HollowTalk]

You don't have to answer the phone to his mum. You could text back and say, "Sorry, bit busy at the moment." Her son sounds a real loser - I think you're making the right decision.

[Mishappening]

I am sure that it is the right decision that he is now your ex partner.

Stay strong.

[Lucy299]

Thank you everyone. I went ahead with the termination and me and him are completely over and don’t speak I knew straight away I had made the right decision x