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crybabybuntin Fri 29-Jun-18 08:23:21

hi im new to the site, i need to hurry up and make a decision... im 9 weeks pregnant, i have a 1 yr old and 12 yr old daughters already. the situation with the father is not good, his not supportive, does very little but wants me to keep baby. i told him that it does t affect his daily life as he is not living with me has his own place and lives his own life. up until last week i was going to try and make it work but in reality i cant. he doesnt support me physically , emotionally and very little financially. i cant stop crying as i really dont want to go through with this procedure but i know my life will be so hard if i decide to keep it. i cant seem to make up my mind😔😔😔 any one been in a similar situation, any advice??

ovenchips Fri 29-Jun-18 08:35:45

Sorry you're having to go through this. I really think this is one thing in life where it has to be your choice. You have to focus on what is right for you and your existing children. I think you seem clear what you want to do from your post, although understandably no-one wants to go through the procedure.

Frankly, the opinion of the father would not sway me from figuring out my decision, especially when he is as useless as you describe him. Realistically it is you who is going to be shouldering all the work and responsibility of another child, so it also makes sense that only you make the decision.

If it were me, I would do what is best for me and my existing children and not have a baby in those circumstances.

Best of luck to you. flowers

FinallyHere Fri 29-Jun-18 09:28:41

So sorry you are going though this. In your shoes, I would be considering the impact on your existing children, and yourself. We all only have a finite set of resources, diverting yours to start all over again with a new born would in my opinion impact negatively on your existing children, who would each get less of your time and attention, as well as actual money. I would not want to do that to them.

I would encourage you to pay absolutely not attention to any opinion expressed by the father, who * is not supportive, does very little but wants me to keep baby*. That is a man who clearly does not have the best interests of you, and your existing children in mind. He is just hoping to tie you to him for longer, and limit your options.

Hope you find what works for you, all the best.

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