Termination or not.....

[Busymummy50]

I'm 39, already have a 10 and 6 year old.

I have had a fallopian tube removed and polycystic ovaries so I don't have a regular cycle. Also it took so so long to conceive my 2 kids that I thought there was no way I would get pregnant so stopped using the pill and went onto just condoms, this was a few years back.

To my shock a few days ago I did a pregnancy test and it was positive. So I repeated again in the morning and again positive. It will make me 6 weeks pregnant from the first day of my last period.

We are in the process of looking for a new house to move for better secondary schools for the eldest child. October we have to apply to a place so we have left it quite tight!!!

Both kids argue as siblings do and I find it a struggle at times with just 2 kids. I see my friends have babies and I don't miss it or feel broody.

I am now comfortable with 2 kids. Financially too it will make it less co.fortable for the 4 of us and things will have to change in terms of lifestyle.

But the idea of a termination horrified me. The fact my kids could have another sibling and I got rid of it horrified me too and I've been crying ever since I've found out. But I also don't want to go through the whole birthing process again at my age. I don't feel I have the energy as I did 10 years ago and not does my partner.

I don't know what to do!!!!

Has anyone else been in a similar situation and decided on a termination?

I'm really scared and I feel so bad even thinking of the idea of a termination...

[February19]

Hi Hun, I am 38, I work full time, I have a 13 and 10 year old, so mostly independent now, split from their dad 3 years ago (still married, trying to sort house and divorce out) but I have a new amazing boyfriend who has no children, I found out I was pregnant last week, unplanned, I am 5 weeks 4 days today, I feel I don't want another baby, I don't want to start again, I enjoy my life as it is being able to go out whenever without the stresses of all the baby stuff. But I cant imagine having an abortion and then keeping it from my boyfriend, I know he'd be over the moon excited if he knew he was going to be a dad, how can I lie to him forever, I've had tiny moments of excitement at going through this with him but then when I think of all the sleepless nights etc I don't want it. I just cant decide, I feel so down, so stuck, i'm scared i'll regret whatever I choose, I don't know what to do.

[Dollycake91]

Hi to you both

It is a difficult thing to go through, my situation was completely different to both of yours (apart from the odd cycles due to pcos) I was young and extremely ill with the pregnancy from the moment I did the test my depression wasn't good but there are people you can speak to either at the clinics or charities before you decide. They won't pressure you either way.