Im a little older than my partner (sorry, dont know all of the abbreviations yet...) I'm 27 next month and he is 24.
We have an amazing relationship, are very certain of our future as well. We both want 4 kids, he is a very family oriented person, and last valentines day our gift to each other was to pick out a boy and girl name so when the time comes, we will already have a name picked. We have a puppy together and have lived together for over a year.
We aren't married yet, and im traditional and would like to be prior to having children... but i just dont want to keep waiting!! Im a lecturer so have a good, stable job. He works hard and financially we are ok - is being married a big enough reason to hold it off?
If we waited to be married first (which i dont think is too far off him asking me) it would be say 1 year of planning/ saving and 8 months of pregnancy, plus add 6 months of waiting for engagement and trying.
Thats 2 years and 2 months. Ill be 29.
I dont want to be turning 30 when i have my first child. And i know lots of women start at that age but im just ready now, i have been for a couple of years but it always seems im just waiting for the other half to catch up, which isnt fair - what about what i want?
I know it seems selfish and like im whining, but i know the second he is a dad he will know it was the right time, he will adore being a father and he'll make a great one.
Ive spoken to him about it but he wants to wait 2 years or so so we can get married first.
Just ranting really, but any advice/ similar situations/ words of any kind would be appreciated.
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lilWolfe · 25/01/2018 23:09
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