Boyfriend won't respect my decision

[TryingTBB]

I found out I was pregnant two weeks ago and even though initially I was shocked, my boyfriend and I talked and agreed that we would keep it and would try to make a go of things (we have been together for less than half a year).

We spent the first week of us knowing quite excited, talking about it a lot etc. but then my rational head came back and I started having a lot of worries and doubts, mainly because of the time we've known each other, we're not currently living together and because I'm not sure I'm 100% ready right now.

When I told him my worries and said that I don't think I can continue worth the pregnancy after all, he went ballistic, saying I should have thought of this before saying we could keep it. I explained to him all of my reasons for why I don't think it's a good idea, but he didn't really seem to understand the gravity of the situation.

Fast forward a few days and he's still saying he feels like he hates me for this, he's not sure he can get over it, he feels like he will never be able to trust me again, and so on.

I've apologised to him for changing my mind but have said that ultimately I really need him to respect that this is my decision as it's my body and I'll be the one most affected for the next 18 years.

I'm really not sure where to go from here or how to deal with his behaviour. I feel that there's only so much I can say, and while I totally understand that he's upset, and I've told him that, I'm also concerned that it doesn't feel like as an adult, he's able to think about something this huge rationally and it almost feels as thought he's putting his own wants before what I think is best for me and for us as a couple if we're ever going to last long term.

What would you do please?

[WorkingBling]

Well, ultimately you get to make this decision. But you need to accept that if you do, it may end the relationship as he might not feel that he wants to be with you. You cannot force someone to understand how you feel.

Having said that, if you don't feel ready to have a baby, then you need to stick to your guns. Having a baby to placate a man you have only known for a short time is crazy.

[SpuriouserAndSpuriouser]

Having a baby to placate a man you have only known for a short time is crazy.

This in spades!

You need to do what's best for you. Obviously it's upsetting for your DP, but once he's had time to process it he should understand that his feelings about this don't trump your right to bodily autonomy. If he doesn't understand that, then to be honest he doesn't sound like a great person to spend the rest of your life with.