I found out I was pregnant, exactly a week ago - my period's often super temperamental and I'd waited for 2 weeks before taking the test! My boyfriend and I immediately had a chat and tried contacting our GP, who was very rude and judgemental (which is funny because I was registered to a university clinic that surely must face a lot of unplanned pregnancies from the kids... poor them if that's what they have to endure), and made me wait a week only to say I'd have to ring Stopes or BPAS. I'm around 7weeks4days now, and have given BPAS a ring - they fitted me in for a consultation Wednesday and am hoping the actual procedure soon-ish... so around 9 weeks.
I am terrified, especially because I'll be alone. My boyfriend (who's child it is) is incredibly supportive and agrees fully about the termination (we're both pursuing our phDs at universities across the country and can't give up everything, not to mention the financial issues) - but he is in Oxford and can't get off at all during weekdays. I didn't want to tell friends here either, as word gets around quickly and I live in a conservative/religious area and don't want to offend anyone.
I'll be definitely opting for a surgical termination - as the clinic they gave me is about a 3 hour train journey from where I live and I know if I start bleeding and passing the pregnancy on the train it would be horrific. The only problem is, I'll have to go for surgical, under local anaesthetic since I have nobody to drive me home... can anyone who's ever gone through it tell me how painful it is? Please do share your experiences with surgical (or even surgical with local anaesthetic!) please, because I'm really, really afraid. Not of losing the baby, or about the termination but about the procedure itself.
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caramelcreme17 · 29/10/2017 03:00
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