I had an abortion at the age of 16. I knew I wasn't ready for a child and at that time in my life that was the best decision for me. I swore I would never have another. Today I am 29 and am currently 6weeks pregnant by a man I found I don't even know. We dated for 5 months and broke up because I ended up finding out he was living another life. He gave me an alias name, told me he was single, never been married but did desire a big family. He also led me to believe he is college educated and holds a masters degree in engineering. He met my family and they all loved him. He went so far as to tell his family I have him the alias as a nickname so they never questioned me calling him by something different. Upon finding it his REAL name, I also found out he's legally married with two children. I also found out he does not have any degree whatsoever and can barely afford the children he has now. I'm so torn about what to do. I don't want to be with him. After the lies and the manipulation... I can't trust him. I have no idea if he's getting a divorce because clearly I can't believe anything he tells me. If I had known he was married to begin with I would have never had a relationship with him. He really put me in a horrible position. This was never how I envisioned beginning my family. I really just want to have an abortion and move on with my life without him. But I'm stuck between the guilt of having a second abortion knowing I promised myself years ago I would never do it again. My mom is begging me to have the child. As she really wants grandchildren from me and she keeps reminding me that I'm not getting any younger. I'm so upset with the events that have happened. I feel so foolish for not picking up on the signs that he is a manipulator. Please help me with any thoughts you may have.
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ITCouldBeWorse ·
10/10/2017 06:06
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