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Desperate for advice re buying abortion pill online, pls help

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Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 08:28:44

I am a single mother of two children and I am desperate to terminate this unwanted pregnancy as soon as possible. I suffer from extreme symptoms such as constant vomiting and extreme tiredness and am unable to work and therefore support my family. I have contacted bpas who said they will contact me for an assessment appointment and I may have to wait two weeks, as there is very high demand at the moment. Marie stopes have said I will need to wait at least two weeks before a procedure can occur.

I have taken two positive pregnancy tests today, a dating pregnancy test which puts me at 2 - 3 weeks, had a scan which did not show foetus but did show thickened womb lining. So I'm for sure pregnant and about at this stage. I am desperate for it not to progress more - I had to go through this before and ended up waiting till I was 8 weeks.

Has anyone bought the pills on line , if so how did you do it? Was it safe? Please help!

allegretto Fri 02-Jun-17 08:30:35

I understand how upsetting this must be but please, wait for the appointment and don't buy anything online! You don't know what you'd be getting and you could put your health at risk.

Lottie991 Fri 02-Jun-17 08:30:51

Don't buy anything like that online! That's extremely dangerous, Can u go to your drs at all and explain how you are feeling?

witwootoodleoo Fri 02-Jun-17 08:32:50

Please don't buy them online. That is a terrible and dangerous idea. Your children need their mother safe and well not poisoned by some dodgy internet tablets.

If you're feeling this desperate perhaps make an emergency appointment with your GP to discuss options or wait the 2 weeks from Marie Stopes or BPAS. I know you want it sorted asap but please don't put yourself at risk flowers

TresDesolee Fri 02-Jun-17 08:36:28

You need to talk to

There seems to be information here:

Marie Stopes and BPAS will have your interests at heart. Have you tried speaking to them again - explain how anxious/desperate you are and ask whether there are medical reasons you should wait, or whether it's purely about pressure on services

Sympathy on the exhaustion and vomiting. Early pregnancy is bad enough when it's a wanted baby flowers

MargaretCavendish Fri 02-Jun-17 08:36:35

Don't buy anything online. I completely sympathesise with your fear that pregnancy makes you too ill to look after your children, but you could make yourself much sicker still with unregulated medicine of dubious origin.

OP, have you actually seen your GP? It sounds like you went directly to private clinics? I think it would be a good idea to at least try talking to your GP about how desperate you feel and seeing whether they have any ability to refer you more quickly.

hickorydickorynurseryrhyme Fri 02-Jun-17 08:38:05

Agree please don't buy anything online. X

Huffl3puffPrinc3ss Fri 02-Jun-17 08:38:44

Don't buy the pills online. It could be very dangerous. Why don't you try your GP?

KatyBerry Fri 02-Jun-17 08:39:35

Which country are you in?

Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 08:47:53

Hi thanks all I'm so grateful flowers

I'm in the UK

I have contacted women on web and thought I had bought the pills from them (what an amazing organization) but then got an email saying as I'm in the UK and abortion is legal, they can't supply.

Bpas and Marie stopes seem to be saying they need to scan a viable uterus before giving pills. Online it seems to say they are safe to take from 2 weeks.

Safe2choose looked safe to me, but of course I have the concerns raised by posters on this thread sad

Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 08:48:53

Gp doesn't seem any quicker than bpas unless they could fast track me? Have been hospitalized with sickness before sad

BastardGoDarkly Fri 02-Jun-17 08:54:15

For god sake, do not buy abortion pills online!

Your GP may be able to fast track you yes, if not, have you had any sickness yet? It may not start for a while.

In any case, worst case scenario of waiting is 2 weeks sickness, worst case of internet medication is unthinkable.

Try your GP.

Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 08:54:21

Any one taken it this early?

Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 08:55:30

Honestly women on web is totally legitimate, just not for women in places it is legal, I read lots about it, they are a women's charity who send pills to those who can't access abortion safely

BastardGoDarkly Fri 02-Jun-17 08:58:36

Ok, but you can't access that one, best alternative is one that you know nothing about, but 'looks safe'.

I know you're desperate, but please don't consider this.

PersianCatLady Fri 02-Jun-17 09:02:13

Please please do not buy anything online.

If you are desperate to get this sorted out ASAP, I would go to the GP as they can refer you to BPAS more quickly than you can self refer.

Also the GP may be able to give you something to control your symptoms.

TresDesolee Fri 02-Jun-17 09:02:56

I agree you should go back to your GP and make a huge fuss (cry, say it's affecting your mental health, vomit on their shoes). Abortion services are under so much pressure - your GP might be able to bump you up if you get them onside.

PersianCatLady Fri 02-Jun-17 09:05:09

I meant to add that I do know of people who have got a BPAS appointment more quickly through a GP than self referring.

Sorry to assume this but if money is an issue, the GP can also get the BPAS to waive some or all of their fees.

Your GP surgery will be open now, please call them today.

Isetan Fri 02-Jun-17 09:08:02

Better, safe than sorry and it's safer to wait two weeks for a legal (and therefore regulated) termination. The drugs this organisation supply are powerful and should never be administered or taken without input from a qualified individual.

Don't let desperation or impatience suck you into a potentially dangerous route.

MargaretCavendish Fri 02-Jun-17 09:10:09

I don't think anyone, including the charity, would say that taking these pills unmonitored is as good as having treatment under the care of a medical professional. These are options for women who live in places where the laws put them in a terrible position of not being able to access legal, safe abortion. Of course they're better than those women trying to end their pregnancies through other, less safe methods, but that's​ why they won't supply to women in the UK - it's not ethical to do so for women who have a better option.

Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 10:09:53

Thanks all. Women on web are going to get back to me. I am satisfied they've safe and I competed their online consultation form which ruled out risks, as well as being near a hospitAl which I am and having someone with me, which I will.

I am not sure if I can take them before the foetus is seen by a scan either way, and if I can take earlier and they will send I would feel safe to do so.

Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 10:12:01

But of course purchasing them through a dodgy provider would be madness, and I would no way do that, so in principal I absolutely agree with all posters who have made that valid point.

Sancerresanwine Fri 02-Jun-17 10:15:01

I do disagree About it being unethical if women have a legal option, if the only issue with UK providers is to see a viable foetus on a scan which could take weeks. Further, I'm happy to donate in more than double the standard donation of 90 euros which would help other women. If it is safe for me to do so at this stage in my pregnancy and I have satisfied their medical requirements I do not have a problem with it.

BastardGoDarkly Fri 02-Jun-17 10:29:07

I thought they'd said no?

Well, you seem determined to go ahead with this, so I'll wish you all the best.

Huffl3puffPrinc3ss Fri 02-Jun-17 11:01:08

Good luck OP. flowers

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