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Pregnant & needing advice

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User0945643567 Sun 14-May-17 23:42:24

I have just discovered I am pregnant. I have been taking cerazette and this was unplanned.
I already have 2DC and am due to start my degree in September. I don't know what to do, this is a shock and I feel like it has derailed my plans.
I never thought I would consider a termination but I just don't know how I can raise 3DC plus university. Will one extra make a difference, can it be done?
I'm 30 and would rather not put my career on hold.
DP has said he will support my decision but that I have to make it asap, I'm just scared I might make the wrong one sad

User0945643567 Mon 15-May-17 18:39:42

Anyone? I'm so torn, I don't know if I can do this

blue2014 Mon 15-May-17 18:46:55

Sweets I have no advice for you but maybe get this moved to pregnancy choices where you will get more responses?

blue2014 Mon 15-May-17 18:47:48

Can DP help you with your decision? It's a hard one to make alone

User0945643567 Mon 15-May-17 19:15:45

How can I get this moved? DP just wants me to make the decision as soon as possible which is of very little help. He says he will be happy if we have the baby but that we can also have a baby in a few years time if we choose not to have this baby.

blue2014 Mon 15-May-17 21:47:30

Don't let him pressure you.

I think you report your own post and ask for it to be moved. I will try to do it for you now

User0945643567 Mon 15-May-17 22:12:09

Thank you, and thank you so much for replying. I know I need to give this a lot of thought regardless of being rushed.

blue2014 Mon 15-May-17 22:20:42

I think you can find places that offer counselling sessions to help you?

I guess it comes down to whether you want another child right now?

ToniMumsnet (MNHQ) Tue 16-May-17 08:34:21

We'll be moving this thread to Pregnancy choices soon.

User0945643567 Tue 16-May-17 16:32:44

I managed to get an appointment with my doctor for tomorrow so I guess I'll take it from there. Thank you for taking the time to reply to me @blue2014

blue2014 Tue 16-May-17 17:49:56

Take careflowers

JP61 Thu 19-Apr-18 09:11:38

I’m 42 years old, my husband is 49 years old and I’ve just found out I’m pregnant. I have 3 children aged 19, 17 and 16. I wasn’t planning on being a mum for the 4th time. Just started getting some time to ourselves at last, etc. My husband has been really good and supportive and told me to take my time making a decision and to weigh up the pros and cons, but how do I know what to do? He told me not to just tell him what I think he wants to hear i.e. I’ll not keep the baby. What if I make a decision and it’s not the one my husband wanted? So confused!!

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