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Scared to tell husband I'm pregnant

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user1490908264 Fri 31-Mar-17 07:24:20

So I took a test earlier today after feeling a bit off key the last week and realised I am pregnant with baby no 4. Terrified to tell hubby because I'm not sure what his reaction will be. Bit of background, I have a 5 year old, 3 year old and 1 1/2 year old already. Last pregnancy was very scary for me and both myself and the baby almost didn't make it. She was born very premature at 28 weeks but thankfully does not have any lasting issues and is now very happy and healthy. I was very sick after and in hospital for 3 weeks. I went on the pill when my periods returned and have been on it since. Haven't missed any days but a few weeks back I has a very bad infection which I had antibiotics for. After that cleared I ended up with an infection on my wisdom tooth and had to have another dose of antibiotics. Didn't think anything of it at the time but that's the only possible explanation I have for falling pregnant again. Hubby wasn't overly happy when he found out I was pregnant with no 3 as he only ever wanted 2 children. Having said that, he is an amazing dad and it didn't take him long after finding out to get on board and support me. He never pressured me to have a termination or anything like that. He had mentioned he is stressed about finances as he is the only one of us working at the moment until the children are in school as we can't afford childcare. Sorry for the long story, I'm just very shocked and scared at the moment. Not sure how to tell hubby, how he will react. Not even sure how I feel. How will I cope with 4 on my own with hubby working 12-14 hours shifts 6 days a week. I'm just very overwhelmed right now. I feel like I want to be happy but at the same time I feel guilty for the pressure it will put on my hubby. I don't want to push him away but he has been very adamant about the fact that he does not want any more children.

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