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I'm 30, single parent to a 3yo from a relationship that didn't work out, who was very much planned and wanted. 3yo dad is very involved and hands on (nowadays at least, lack of participation in parenting was one of the many reasons we split eventually). I also work full time.
I've recently found out I'm pregnant (8 weeksish) totally unplanned following a contraceptive failure. The dad and I are not in a relationship, and he's absolutely adamant that he doesn't want a baby and wants me to terminate.
I'm really struggling to know what to do for the best. I really want to continue the pregnancy, but I'm aware it won't be easy. I'll have to drop to part time hours at work, find suitable childcare and I'm not sure how I'll afford it. I remember the relentlessness and exhaustion of the newborn days, and wonder how I'll cope all alone with another child in the mix (although to be truthful, I did most of it by myself last time).
Mostly, I'm wondering if it's fair to bring a child into the world when one of its parents is so opposed to it's very existence. I'm worried for the future, when this baby notices that 3yo sees much of their daddy and they don't see any of theirs. I'm so very torn
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Slippersock123 · 19/03/2017 10:37
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