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Please help :-(

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outnumbered4 Tue 07-Mar-17 12:01:12

Hi I'm new here! I'm a mum of 4, 2 of my children have asd 1 of which with very challenging behaviour and sleep disorder. I recently found out I am pregnant again (was on contraception!) and was referred urgently to the obstetrician from my last pregnancy to discuss if I could/should go ahead.

Bit of background, I have had 4 c sections with complications in the last 2 (they cut through my bladder during the 3rd because of adhesions and the 4th surgery was very complicated resulting in a massive bleed which they had trouble stopping) I was told last time it would be unsafe to have another baby. The obstetrician recommended I terminate this pregnancy after going through all the risks although did state it is ultimately my decision.

I made the decision after that appointment that I felt I have no choice but to not go ahead with the pregnancy for my other children's sake, I've struggled a lot with the decision and it's the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I made an appointment the next day. I went to the clinic had all the tests and scan etc and they have then referred me on to a specialist as they are saying it is too risky for them to do. Well I am now nearly 10 weeks I made the initial appointment at 5 weeks to terminate and No one will do anything, they have referred me to a hospital 2 hours away in the middle of London who have just rung me and been really short with me on the phone.

Has anyone been through anything like this and can help me I don't know what to do or how to cope and I just cry all the time

aliceinwanderland Tue 07-Mar-17 12:07:32

That all sounds incredibly tough. I'm sorry you're having to go through so much to get the termination. Could your Gp provide you with any support in arranging the procedure? flowers

cheeseandpineapple Tue 07-Mar-17 12:15:54

So sorry that you're having to go through this OP. Might be worth calling Marie Stopes for some advice?

www.mariestopes.org.uk

outnumbered4 Tue 07-Mar-17 14:09:33

Nobody seems able to do anything I don't understand why it's so hard I feel like I'm being backed into a corner. No part of me wants to terminate this pregnancy but the risks are too great and I have to put my other children first, the longer it goes on the harder it is

MrsNutella Fri 10-Mar-17 12:02:49

Op are there any private clinics that would be an option for you nearby?
I'm so sorry an already hard decision is being made so much more traumatic for you. flowers

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