Nc for this as it's outing.
Dh & I had the discussion about trying for dc5 in the Autumn. He wasn't opposed to the idea of 5 so we agreed we'd start trying October/November time.
We had unprotected sex once in early November, in theory just before my fertile window. The next day my dad told us he had been given an urgent referral to Oncology & that it was highly likely the same cancer he had 12 years ago had returned. We decided that night that we would put ttc on hold at least until we knew the diagnosis (he lives alone & I'm an only child so we'll help him as much as we can).
To be totally honest I put it all to the back of my mind. A couple of days before my period was due I had a d&v bug so when my period only lasted 2 days & was v light I put it down to being ill. We found out between Christmas and new year my dad does indeed have cancer again & he'll be starting treatment this Friday. I found out last Thursday I'm pregnant, I was referred for a scan (history of ectopic pregnancies in the family) & I'm now roughly 10 weeks.
I really don't know what to do & neither does dh, on the one hand this baby, at the point we had sex, was wanted but so much has changed...I know there's every chance dad will recover but the next few months are going to be stressful & hard for us & confusing for our 4 existing dc, the older 2 particularly enjoy spending time with their grandad. I'm just so confused. I don't even know what the point of this post is really.
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Ohcrikeyherewego · 10/01/2017 16:27
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