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Post Termination hormones?

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TheDramaLlama123 · 19/12/2016 21:12

I reluctantly had a surgical termination last week, I know it was the right thing to do due to my current situation, despite my wavering in making the difficult choice. The hospital were amazing and I'm recovering well (a little to well as I feel i deserve some pain strange as that sounds) but they never told me my milk would come in. I'm also very broody and am dreaming of mundane things like making baby food. Is this my hormones? I'm feeling awfully confused.

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Mrspotatohead18 · 19/12/2016 21:24

I can't really comment on things like baby food etc. I recently had a medical termination as I was very early. I am currently going through the motions. I feel anger more than anything, just general anger not specifically with me or about anything in particular. It is upsetting and it's hard to control the way I feel as I still have all these hormones, I too am recovering okay so far and it makes me feel like a terrible person, even though what I did was in mine and also the babies best interest. I'm not in a position to raise a child the way it deserves and I would want it to have to best life I could give it. I try to remember that, but it's hard and it's something I will always have to live with. Hope you're doing ok

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TheDramaLlama123 · 19/12/2016 22:03

Thank you Mrs Always remember that, I will too - I wouldn't have been able to be the Mum that the baby would have deserved and thats the most important thing.

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Mrspotatohead18 · 21/12/2016 03:29

Exactly. It doesn't make it easier, but life likes to surprise you. I take comfort in knowing I chose what I felt was right not only for me, but for what I'd created. I was in love as soon as I found out. And I'll always be in love, it doesnt matter how or when or why. You still feel the loss and the emotions that go with it x

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capercaillie · 21/12/2016 16:40

I had a surgical termination 3 weeks ago. Afterwards I felt complete relief but in teh last week, there's been a bit of regret and bit of what if. I guess some of that's as my hormones return to the usual monthly cycle but it's very confusing. Don't regret my decision though - the thought of it and the reality of it are completely different.

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TheDramaLlama123 · 21/12/2016 20:36

Yes, Mrs, I do feel as though Ive lost something too, If it wasn't for my personal circumstances, I would have been able to care for this baby and love it so much. but I also feel I shouldn't be able to greave or regret as I made this decision x
Caper I think there will always be a what if, but I think you have to remember that it is a day dream, we/I made this hard decision as the reality would have been tough for me and the baby. for you both.