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41 and just found out I'm pregnant

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Runrabbit1 Mon 12-Dec-16 08:49:39

I am 41ys and my partner 43 and been together 1 year. We have four boys (2 each) and have been gradually blending our two families. We don't live together yet but are in the process of selling houses so we can buy a new house for us all.
I have just found out I'm 5 weeks pregnant...
My partner was VERY keen a few months ago as he said it would be ours and something that bonded our love. I was always a bit unsure, mainly because we have everything other weekend and every Tuesday night to ourselves as our children are with their other parents which gives us a nice break and time to be "us". We've always said how lucky we are (although we miss our children greatly) that we get time off if you like and time to be adults and a couple and how important that was for us.
Obviously if we had a baby, that time would be gone for 15 or so years.
Also what if we still haven't sold the house? My eldest Son has ADHD and quite positively so does my stepson... would we have to stretch ourselves so thin between 5 children and each other that it would break us?
So now we've found out I'm pregnant, my partner has seen the reality of it and isn't so keen. I'm the same but also finding the thought of not keeping it very hard.
I wondered if anyone has had experience of a be baby within a stepfamily and whether it worked or was too hard... or any advice actually..

Thanks

TimidLividyetagain Sun 18-Dec-16 22:05:56

Try posting the question about blending families in the step parents bit of mumsnet u might get more replies there. Didn't want to ignore ur message

KatelovesJames Tue 20-Dec-16 17:14:52

I don't have any advice as dp doesn't have children but have you talked about your fears?

We're going through an unplanned pg and he didn't really want to say too much until I was leaning more towards one option (he didn't want to upset me).

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