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This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

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This topic is for sharing experiences of pregnancy choices; to debate the ethics of termination, visit our Politics or Chat forums.

Pregnancy choices

Abortion (sensitive)

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pinklimonade · 27/11/2016 20:22

How soon can you get one via your GP? Please?

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Doobigetta · 27/11/2016 20:25

I think I had to wait about two weeks, but that was a really long time ago- things might have changed in either direction. Can you say anything about your circumstances, so people can give you more specific advice?

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pinklimonade · 27/11/2016 20:26

I need an abortion, obviously the quicker the better. Am not far gone at all.

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Doobigetta · 27/11/2016 20:30

If you are less than 10 weeks, you can have a medical abortion- pills, rather than a surgical procedure- so you wouldn't have to wait at all.

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PippaPug · 27/11/2016 20:30

Would any local family planning clinic be able to help?

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pinklimonade · 27/11/2016 20:31

I had one st 8 weeks previous and that was surgical. I don't know Pippa

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witsender · 27/11/2016 20:31

They tend to be able to arrange them.pretty quickly. How far gone are you? Make an emergency appt tomorrow and talk to them. If they are unhelpful try family planning.

There are ways and means, I hope you get an answer soon.

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GinIsMySaviour · 27/11/2016 20:32

Are you near a BPAS clinic?

www.bpas.org

I had to wait for 5 days. You will need to be at least 5 weeks gone I think,

I hope you are okay

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pinklimonade · 27/11/2016 20:34

Thank you. For the kindness as well as link.

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VivienneWestwoodsKnickers · 27/11/2016 20:37

I went to the walk in GU Med clinic. I had papers signed the same day I think, but my memories are shaky for that whole period of time. I was booked in 10 days later or something.

I hope you're ok OP. Tough times.

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GinIsMySaviour · 27/11/2016 20:38

Not at all - here for a chat if you need it.

I found that making the decision was relatively easy but the waiting until I could go through with it was a challenge.

Shout if you want to talk - either about how you're feeling or something just to distract you

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pinklimonade · 27/11/2016 20:38

I know I have to. Have to. Barely coping with the kids I've got!! Husband canNOT find out. So can't go private.

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HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 27/11/2016 20:40

www.nhs.uk/conditions/Abortion/Pages/Introduction.aspx

This link tells you how to check nhs abortion services in your area

In my area you don't need to see your GP, you can arrange an appointment with the abortion service directly

Get in touch asap as the earlier you are seen the more options you have

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ILikeyourHairyHands · 27/11/2016 20:41

You can go to your GP as soon as you have positive test and arrange a medical abortion as a PP said.

It's a fairly straightforward procedure, you'll have a referral to the hospital or clinic at which they'll have a chat with you, take bloods, medical history etc. You'll also have to see another Dr who will chat to.you about the reasons you have chosen to terminate (it's merely procedure as terminations must be signed off by two Drs, the first of whom will have been your GP), you will then be given an initial appointment to take the first tablet which will effectively and the pregnancy. A second appointment will be made for a few days later at which you are given more drugs to bring on labour to expel the products of the pregnancy.

Some clinics will then let you go home to pass the products, if it's a hospital they will generally keep you in to ensure the process is complete.

Takes a couple of weeks usually from start to finish.

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Mummyh2016 · 27/11/2016 20:43

7 years ago I had one. Went to the GP on wed morning, had my consultation at the bpas clinic on Thursday evening and the procedure was done on the Saturday at 9am. No complaints, don't think I'd have been done that quick if I'd gone private. I did have to have the surgical option though as there was a wait for the pill which would've put me past the point i could take it. I could've gone to the next town to take it but didn't want to travel and just wanted it over and done with. Good luck!

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HopelesslydevotedtoGu · 27/11/2016 20:43

How do you think your husband would react?

Do you have any contraception?

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Northernlurker · 27/11/2016 20:43

Is it because he will want to keep the baby that he can't know or is it because you are frightened of his reaction?

If it's the former and he's a decent man then it will be very hard for you to keep that secret for the rest of your life and I would urge you to think carefully.
If it's the latter and you are scared of him then you need support which women's aid can provide.

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LuckySantangelo1 · 27/11/2016 20:43

For speed OP go direct to either BPAS or Marie stopes. You may be able to have the consultation and procedure on the same day if you are already decided; ask about this when you call to make an appt.

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Pogmella · 27/11/2016 20:44

Are you safe? You mention your husband cant find out. If you don't feel safe there's lots of help for that too.

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ILikeyourHairyHands · 27/11/2016 20:45

Mummy I think you have to be over 8 weeks or so before you can have a surgical procedure so.if OP wants it quicker medical would be best.

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witsender · 27/11/2016 20:46

I saw your post on the other section, this must be so stressful. I would go straight to GP and talk

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AnUtterIdiot · 27/11/2016 20:49

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pinklimonade · 27/11/2016 20:50

He'd definitely want to keep it.

I could be wrong but you have to pay, I think, through going directly to Marie Stopes.

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Oswin · 27/11/2016 20:54

No you don't have to pay if ring them direct.

I rang them on a Friday, had a surgical abortion by the Wednesday.

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GinIsMySaviour · 27/11/2016 20:57

Not sure about Marie Stopes, but as pps have said, you can go straight to BPAS and it's free if you qualify for NHS treatment.

I spoke to someone on the phone, got an appt about 5 days later (I had to be far enough along for them to confirm the pregnancy on a scan to double check it wasn't ectopic) then went in and had the consultation and got the meds for the medical abortion in one go.

Are you close to a BPAS clinic? Or would a GP and local hospital be a better option for you?

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Northernlurker · 27/11/2016 21:04

I do agree anutter, what I was getting at is there are situations when it's not safe to disclose a pregnancy and there are situations when it's not right to. In the latter case though you are putting a huge and hard to keep secret in to your marriage and that has risks of its own. Whereas if the father can put aside their wishes and respect the mothers choice, it's potentially likely to be a better outcome long term.