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Pregnant with no.2. I dont want it but boyfriend does.

(6 Posts)
Mitzimay6 Tue 22-Nov-16 17:55:41

I had lewis only 6 months ago. Tough pregnany and labour. Father left me. Got a new boyfriend 2 months ago and have fell pregnant even tho im on the pill. Im around 4 weeks and absolutely certian i dont want it. Even after days of consideration. My boyfriend really wants it and is actually being quite mean to me about getting rid of it so dont know what to do. Im not ready. My body hasnt recovered. I have no fixed address. I have a lot going on in my life right now. I dont want another baby until im ready. Ive explained all of this to him. Its making me feel like a monster

MrsHathaway Tue 22-Nov-16 18:14:18

I think it's quite creepy for a man to get someone pregnant six weeks into a relationship when she has such a small baby, and not go "ooh shit that's a bit fast".

If he'd said "this is scary but if you want to keep it I'll do whatever you need" then fine, but going straight into "you're evil for even considering terminating" is a huge red flag.

In your position I think the very best thing is to have a tx as soon as possible, and get rid of the boyfriend at the same time. He doesn't sound like a good long term prospect, and you and your son are better off without!

HollowTalk Tue 22-Nov-16 18:19:54

He's mean now; god knows what he'd be like if you had his baby. He's showing his true colours already. I would have a termination and I wouldn't tell him about it either - I'd tell him I'd miscarried and would dump him.

Hope things look up for you soon. flowers

Goingtobeawesome Tue 22-Nov-16 18:22:31

Being mean, definitely get rid of him.

RabbitSaysWoof Tue 22-Nov-16 18:23:15

You sound like you have your head screwed on, focusing in on what you have now, you sound like a great mature mother to the baby you already have.
I think your boyfriend sounds either controlling or immature, possibly both. I'm sorry for your situation, I echo MrsHathaway you could do with letting go of them both, for you and your future with your Son.

SVJAA Tue 22-Nov-16 18:26:54

You're not a monster, you're in a really tough situation. I had 2 babies within a year and it's hard going. For me personally it was worth it, but you know your own situation best and what works for you and your family. There is no wrong decision here, it's what's best for you and your boy that matters. flowers

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