Ive had treatment to make sure Im fertile and now I dont know if I want a baby

[yillt]

Hey everyone

So here's my dilemma. a few years ago I found out I had pelvic congestion syndrome, it was damaging my womb by scaring it each month when I had a period, this meant that it would be less likely a baby could attach in my womb and I was told if I didnt have a few operations I may never be able to have kids( long story short)

At the time I said yes, definitely give me the operations I really want children. So I had the operations, the treatment is over and I still have a shot at falling pregnant and now I can try for children ( still a long shot but we have the option). I thought Id be super excited and happy to start trying but suddenly, after all that, Im worried I don't want children anymore. That kids would take over my life and cause myself and my DH to focus all our attention on a child instead of each other - it might ruin our relationship and once its happened we can't go back.

Suddenly the idea of children is scary and I don't know what to do. Im 30 and he's 37 so lifestage wise, we should really try now if we're going to.

Anyone got any advice or experience like this?

[Imnotmyself]

Just didn't want to leave this unanswered. I can only speak from my own situation - and everyone's situation is different. Maybe sit down with your DH and talk through the pros and cons of having a baby. Really listen to what he wants as well as what you want. I always knew that I wanted children. We started trying when I was 33 so you have a few years left to make the decision. Before I had children I had already decided I would have three. Here's where I have a word of caution. Having had two it took a few years before I felt 'ready' to try for the third. My husband did not want any more. I brow beat him into trying. As soon as I found out that I am expecting the third, I realised that all those niggling doubts I'd had since having the first were HUGE. I really don't want three. I want two. Too late now. I had no niggling doubts about having the first two. So, from my experience, if you have niggling doubts heed them. I had niggling doubts when I was around 30 and held off for a few years.. by then our financial and domestic situation was better and I really feel like I had my first two children at the right time. Wait till the niggling doubts have gone.