My husband recently told he he had an affair. His rationale for telling me was because he wanted me and our family. He last slept with the OW on 5th September whilst she was on her cycle. He used withdrawal method. The OW is also in a relationship. She has since appeared and said she is pregnant, went to clinic last Friday for termination and the clinic told her she is nine weeks pregnant. Could this baby be my husbands??
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GorillaWar ·
18/11/2015 13:40
Leaving my thoughts on your husband ant his woman completely out of it as you've said this isn't really what you want...
There's a very real chance that this baby could be your husbands, who knows? You won't know for sure without a DNA test and that might not be easy to achieve if the other doesn't want it.
If she keeps this baby your children may well half a half brother or sister. This woman could make things very complicated for you in the future, OP. Tread carefully. Look after yourself and your children 
RollingRollingRolling ·
18/11/2015 13:41
Sex on 5th September, even allowing sperm to live for 5 days would put her at 12 weeks now. Also she is very unlikely to ovulate whilst miscarrying, and 9 weeks would put her ovulating a few weeks after miscarriage. Bt this is all null and void if she said she was 9 weeks 3 weeks ago. If she is 12 weeks, sounds like she is infatuated with your husband and wants it to be his/him to go running back.
But all this is besides the point that he cheated in you, had unprotected sex, and if wouldn't believe he used the pull out method in an affair, as the whole point is him having illicit sex. He could have also lied about the last date he slept with her. This is all distracting you from his lies at the moment, so once this is sorted, hopefully you can look at your relationship.
How hard for him to keep having sex with her becuase she threatened to tell you.
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DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow ·
18/11/2015 13:48
Do you know what, I could work through an affair, and under 'normal' circumstances, if it were my own relationship, I'd probably give it a try.
But not in this case. You can kid yourself that he didn't really want to, she had him over a barrel, etc, etc. But there's no point umming and ahhing and trying to work out dates.
She is a liar. I'd want to see a scan picture with her name and the date on it before I'd even start to believe a word she said - hell, I'd want to be at the appointment with her and hear the words come from the medics own mouth before I'd believe anything about dates and how far along she is.
Your H is a liar - sex dates, withdrawal method, whatever 
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Based on the only two things you know for sure - they are liars, they had unprotected sex - there is absolutely every chance this baby is his, and unfortunately you won't find out if it is until it's born.
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