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Come tell me I'm being paranoid, please

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Thurlow Tue 09-Jun-15 13:04:54

Wasn't sure where to post this, this board seemed like the least offensive and anyway, I know a lot of you over time as we set this board up. And so you might know my background and understand my panic (hence no n/c)

I'm ridiculously paranoid that I'm pregnant. I don't know why. I was recently put back on the pill for period issues, which might be clouding my judgment as I fell pg on the pill back in my early 20s, don't know whether that was because of illness or just bad luck.

Logically, I can see reasons why I have pregnancy-like symptoms. I had had a horrible virus for the past 10 days so am knackered. I have a slightly upset tummy, but that's almost certainly from all the snot etc. Or just me paying more attention to the tummy changes being on the pill can cause. The two things that have been really bugging me the past week have been 1) getting up occasionally to pee during the night, and 2) my sense of smell seeming stronger. Both are symptoms I've had in previous pregnancies. The smell (things seem stuffy) is really bothering me now. Probably completely psychosomatic by now.

I've taken two tests, one yesterday and one a week ago, both negative.

Now realistically, my last pill period was on the 21st May. We've had sex one, on the 27th (we think). This might sound stupidly out of synch but from the unexpected pregnancies I seem to ovulate ridiculously bloody early and so have fallen pregnant twice, for definite, after having had unprotected sex on days 4-5. Those dates would make me on, what, 2 1/2 weeks since my period? Which is just too ridiculously early to be smelling things and feeling nauseous. Plus I have no reason to think that I wouldn't have been covered by the pill. Surely, if there was enough HGC to make me feel nauseous, there would be enough HGC to have a positive test?

Or I'd be pregnant from my previous cycle, in which case I've always had a strong positive test a day or two after a missed period.

These dates just don't add up, do they? To have had sex a fortnight ago and already think I have some pregnancy symptoms?

I'm just panicking. I want another DC but as irrational as it sounds, I can't do this without planning - I need to decide to try for a baby, I need to prepare myself for the sickness, I need to quit smoking properly first. I can't do this unexpectedly again. And I'm not due on for another 7-10 days sad

Sorry for the lengthy waffle. Just wondering if someone else on here, knowing some of you have been through the same things, can make me less paranoid.

TheLastPickleInTheJar Tue 09-Jun-15 20:16:37

You must be in a tizz sad

Realistically if you were so early pregnant it wouldn't be long implanted so very early for symptoms. As you know^ symptoms are usually a reaction to the HSG which would mean a test would also show positive (as you said). And if you caught last cycle two negative tests at this point would be unusual.

I think you're definitely being paranoid. I just wish i could tell you that you're definitely not pregnant. No doubt if you were ttc and wrote that post you'd get a lot of 'sounds promising' messages.

I hope it's just the medication wine thanks

Thurlow Tue 09-Jun-15 22:13:51

Thanks. I know, I've been googling and it's all positive stories on pregnancy forums!

I'm sure worrying is making it.worse. Thanks for replying though

TheLastPickleInTheJar Tue 09-Jun-15 23:21:37

Worrying does make it worse. It's unfortunate that all you can really do is wait. The 2ww is torture whether the desired result is a positive or negative. You'll be noticing every little symptom and feeling every little twinge between now and your period.

It's unlikely that you're pregnant because you're on the pill but with your history i understand why you're anxious.

I just wish i could offer you some advice. You've been a fantastic support to people on this board (me included, though i'm a serial name-changer!) and i want to be able to give something back.

I'll virtually hold your hand until test day or the start of your period, whichever comes first.

Let us know how you get on.

Thurlow Wed 10-Jun-15 09:34:34

Thanks Pickle. I know I'm probably being paranoid but it's just hit me like a brick. This bodes well for when we actually do decide TTC, doesn't it? hmm I think I'm mostly scared because it's only a few months before we were planning on trying anyway, but there's just this block in my head - I don't want to do it now sad

I've never had IBS but a lot of the symptoms do match. I've bought some tablets for it. Hopefully it's just a coincidence of symptoms following this shitty virus (which I do at least know started after we last dtd so it's not like that affected the pill) and I'm making 2+2=103.

Thanks for listening though. I can't talk to anyone in rl because this is so irrational, I know they won't get it.

thisisnow Wed 10-Jun-15 23:02:02

Hope you're okay Thurlow flowers

PolterGoose Thu 11-Jun-15 16:56:03

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Thurlow Thu 11-Jun-15 22:43:12

Thanks all. I have a really bad tummy so I'm hoping it's just that. I think I panic because sickness means pregnancy, so having an upset stomach makes me panic. I know the odds are low so I'm trying to relax and be realistic. I'm calmer now than I was when I wrote that first post at least blush

TheLastPickleInTheJar Thu 11-Jun-15 22:46:16

When are you planning to start ttc? Or has this put you off completely? grin You'll be stressing about symptoms for a different reason then! Exciting smile

TheBabyFacedAssassin Thu 11-Jun-15 22:53:14

Could all these symptoms could be a side effect of starting the pill? You don't sound irrational at all, I would be the same. Glad you're feeling calmer! And good luck with the ttc when you decide the time is right!

TRexingInAsda Thu 11-Jun-15 23:11:13

Can you come off the pill and see if your period arrives? If it does you can always start ttc?

TheLastPickleInTheJar Wed 17-Jun-15 07:26:39

How are you doing Thurlow ?

Thurlow Sat 20-Jun-15 18:34:56

Thanks everyone, and for checking up. I've been really run down and am now on antibiotics for a sinus infection! I'm fairly certain it's just that. I did an indecent number of pregnancy tests last week blush Technically was due on yesterday (skipped as I'm on the pill) so I know I should take a test to be sure, but I've wrapped myself in knots with all the negative ones!

I do think I was just being horribly paranoid as I would be feeling worse now, not better.

Still, this really does bode well for actually TTC and hopefully getting pregnant, doesn't it? hmm

TheLastPickleInTheJar Sat 20-Jun-15 22:39:03

When you're actively ttc you'll be more mentally ready for a bfp. Try not to base how you might feel then on how you're feeling now - it will be a completely different scenario. smile

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