We have been married a long time and already haveca gorgeous 5 year old.
I discovered a few weeks ago that I was 8 weeks pregnant. Bid had an op and forgot to restart my pill after the 7 day break. It took a couple of weeks for me to find the courage to tell him, and for me to adapt. In tbecdnd he guessed because I'd stopped drinking.
He is adament that he doesn't want it. He thinks I did it on purpose (as we rarley have sex). He feels we are only just getting our life back on track after our son and he doesn't want to go through the baby stage again, he says our son is perfect and it won't compare, that he doesn't want a girl, he won't come round to the idea and that he doesn't want it. We don't have family nearby to help and he says we can't afford it (we live comfortably so if we wanted to, we could).
I have gone through the motions to arrange a termination and have it booked for 7th. I really don't want to go through it, I had o e when one I was 22 because we both felt we were too young. I've always been sadanout that and do sometimes think I'd have a 17 year old now, but in my heart I don't know how I would have managed. This one is different. I eantvit and I've checked with the doctor and have been assured that the post op pillspills wouldn't have caused any problems.
If I go ahead with the pregnancy I feel I will be on my own, even if we continue living together. I worry about the impact ony son and the baby, my h said there will be bad blood between us and that he'll feel trapped and manipulated into it - and I know that he doesn't react well in these circumstances.
This is such s mess. I'm in bits when I see or hear anything baby related and found myself lying to the nursecst Marie stopes - have I made my decision 'yes' (no), is my mental health at risk by continuing with the pregnancy 'yes' (no - other way round).
Just want to cry.
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muddypuddles01 · 31/03/2015 06:48
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