I'm 39 and had an abortion eight weeks ago. I have mild depression and a panic disorder and have always been phobic of pregnancy, as far back as I remember. However, I always thought if it happened I would deal with it and cope.
My partner and I became a bit devil may care about contraception about five years ago, as we wanted to start a family. It never happened and I accepted my perceived infertility, until a couple of months ago.
When I found out I was pregnant, I felt absolutely terrified and depressed and kind of blindly sleepwalked into having an abortion at nine weeks, though my partner was devastated and didn't want me to. I felt trapped, like I couldn't breathe and had no connection with the potential baby or what was happening. I didn't feel any emotion at all.
Since then I feel destroyed. I'm haunted by what I've done, it eats at me constantly and I think of nothing else, and wish I could undo it. I feel it's too late now to try again at my age and that even if I do, what if I just feel the same way? My thoughts are so black, knotted and confused.
I can't see a path beyond this point. I'm seeing a counsellor, but I don't feel it's quite enough to untangle this mess. Help.
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mssellotape · 13/03/2015 11:31
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