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I had a surgical termination today

(13 Posts)
Deckmyballs Mon 29-Dec-14 19:14:33

I neither feel relieved or heartbroken. Is that odd?
When I came round from the anaesthetic I asked if it was done, the nurse said yes, and I cried a lot then slept for hours.
Now I'm at home, in a lot of pain and just feeling nothing.

I have 3dc already, I'm married, I couldn't have a 4th.
I didn't want to go through this but felt I had no option really.

Wonkyparsnip Mon 29-Dec-14 19:16:08

Nothing to say except I hope you're ok.

LuckyLuckyMe Mon 29-Dec-14 19:19:18

You'll probably feel numb for a while. Try to take it easy on yourself. Give yourself a lot of time.

OddBoots Mon 29-Dec-14 19:19:26

It's not odd at all, it's often the way we cope.

MistAndAWeepingRain Mon 29-Dec-14 19:25:51

No its not odd. Everyone reacts differently.

flowers Take care of yourself.

Showy Mon 29-Dec-14 19:28:01

No, it's quite a normal reaction tbh.

You say you're in a lot of pain. Are you taking painkillers? What sort of pain? What is your bleeding like? Were you given prophylactic antibiotics?

Take care of yourself.

thisisnow Mon 29-Dec-14 19:52:55

Hope you're okay. I had a surgical and I was in shock I think for the first couple of weeks. flowers

Stealthpolarbear Mon 29-Dec-14 19:54:19

flowers hope your pain goes very soon

HollyJollyXmas Mon 29-Dec-14 19:58:07

I felt tearful but also strangely numb for a while after I had a termination. There is no right or wrong (or weird!) way to feel.

Get plenty of rest, take painkillers and go easy on yourself. Hoping you start to feel better soon x

Deckmyballs Mon 29-Dec-14 21:30:49

Thanks for the reassuring replies, it really helps.

I'm taking paracetamol and ibuprofen plus codeine prescribed by the hospital which is taking the edge off but still have this horrible dull Pulling pain at the pit of my stomach.

My bleeding is ok, not too heavy, new pad every couple of hours worth. Just feel so yucksad

Stealthpolarbear Fri 02-Jan-15 09:09:31

How are you doing?

Letmeeatcakecakecake Tue 06-Jan-15 17:22:38

I had a surgical abortion about 4 years ago, and didn't feel remotely guilty (I still don't to this day) It was strange and I wondered if that was normal. I think it is. Don't beat yourself up over it.

Take plenty of painkillers, get plenty of rest and try to relax

emmalouise90 Thu 08-Jan-15 18:12:51

I had a surgical abortion in October. I didn't feel guilty at all and although I'd love another (1 dc atm) the situation and circumstances were all wrong if anything I felt relived I hardly suffered any bleeding and the aching went after a good night's sleep hope you are okay xx

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