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NikolaPiccola Sat 13-Jul-19 16:52:52

I got my faint BFP today at 6 days past my expected period. It wasn't done with first-morning urine so I expect tomorrows to be darker. This is my first pregnancy at 19 years old (I turn 20 in October though.) Would be nice to have some mums to be around the same age to talk to.

Snipples Fri 19-Jul-19 14:52:43

Sorry to hear that OP. It's so shit. Take care of yourself 💜

kkl1 Fri 19-Jul-19 14:07:48

I'm so sorry to hear that and yes it doesn't matter how far in the pregnancy u are it's still your baby no matter what wishing u all the best for the future xx

smartcarnotsosmartdriver Fri 19-Jul-19 13:26:51

@NikolaPiccola look after yourself, we lost a baby around 6/7 weeks 4 years ago. Allow yourself time to grieve and heal. thanks

NikolaPiccola Fri 19-Jul-19 12:51:27

@sttucknoue @kkl1 Unfortunately, it was a miscarriage. They only saw the broken down fluid (which they suspected was tissue that should come out sometime soon.) I have already grieved this a few days prior. I mostly hated the looks of pity from the nurses when I walked out with a miscarriage leaflet.

My boyfriend and I have both decided to take a break from TTC. I know that he needs time to grieve this baby and so do I. It was very early but it was still my baby. Thankyou all for your support.

kkl1 Fri 19-Jul-19 08:09:21

Good luck today I hope all is well pregnancy is such a worrying thing aswel as amazing I really hope that it all goes well for you today keep us updated xx

stucknoue Thu 18-Jul-19 22:51:42

I had a similar experience - I was told after it was probably a twin pregnancy originally.

NikolaPiccola Thu 18-Jul-19 22:43:14

@kkl1 I had my doctors appointment today. I took a first response this morning and it was negative. My doctor wasn't too worried about it despite my concerns, but I am scheduled for an ultrasound at 10.10am tomorrow. At this point, I'm worried it's either ectopic or a miscarriage. For some wild reason, they have debated it could be twins and one died. I don't even know anymore.

All I want right now is to just fully know what's going on with my body and move on. I have already grieved the potential loss of the pregnancy, but if it turns out fine then it'll be a nice surprise. I just want it over with tbh. I'm still feeling nauseous and sore, I'm ridiculously bloated and stressed out by it all. I hope things are looking better on your end.

@DAR125 that looks like a positive. Similar to mine actually. Honestly, best advice is to just go to the doctors and save yourself the trouble of worrying and second-guessing. I hope you get the answer you're looking for hun x

@IntoValhalla see I reckon it's better to have them young. My mum had me at 22, she then had conceived my brother around 3 years later but unfortunately had a stillbirth at 23 weeks. She had my sister when she was 28 which she says wasn't too bad, and then decided she wanted a third at 35. The older they got the less patience they had. My youngest sister is only 7. My mum will be 53 when she becomes an adult! I don't want any of that haha.

@smartcarnotsosmartdriver awww congratulations! Do you know what you're having?? x

smartcarnotsosmartdriver Thu 18-Jul-19 18:27:00

Hi @NikolaPiccola I wasn't sure if I counted as young haha but you said under 28, I'm 26 and 21 weeks with our first! Hope things are going well for you.

IntoValhalla Thu 18-Jul-19 18:26:40

I fell pregnant with DC1 at 19, was 20 when she was born. Had DC2 17 months later. And I’m now 31 weeks with DC3 at 24 smile

DAR125 Thu 18-Jul-19 18:23:47

I'm 20 and so unsure if I have a positive or not 😕😕 I'm lacking the normal symptoms but if my calculations are correct I'm nearing 6 weeks so I'm presuming the line should be so much darker.

kkl1 Thu 18-Jul-19 18:21:41

How's it going x

Jowd92 Tue 16-Jul-19 14:50:26

Yes fingers crossed for you hun

NikolaPiccola Tue 16-Jul-19 13:42:39

@Jowd92 Yeah I bet that was grim. That's the bit I hate- the waiting. I don't know what to do with myself as I wait for this appointment!

By my last period, I'm estimated to be around 5 weeks 5 days so when I have my appointment on Thursday I should be 6 weeks. I was told that it's the earliest that they can see anything on a scan.

Jowd92 Tue 16-Jul-19 13:30:51

Yes I can see the line hun I also had faints at the start then when I had pain and bleeding I was a mess and that's why I ended up having scans in epu and when I had that first one and was too early to see anything and they booked me back in then I had another to be told there was just a sac and to prepare my self just incase was so hard every day waiting for that next scan was awful I was so glad to get there and be told everything looked okay and there was a heartbeat how many weeks are you now ?

NikolaPiccola Tue 16-Jul-19 13:15:39

@Jowd92 my doctor tried to reassure me that they don't measure concentration, just the presence of hcg. Still though! You hear so many people get bright pink lines and I can't help but be paranoid by them warning me to be prepared. It makes me feel as if I imagined it. But then if I did would I really be so damn bloated and nauseous?? lol grin
Can you see the line on this one?

Jowd92 Tue 16-Jul-19 13:04:01

Yes I understand as having a scan like I did as early as 5 weeks and then not knowing and having to wait again it's not nice so hopefully when you do you get good news and get to see your little baby yes a line is still a line I remember being the same I was doing them everyday until I had my scan the things we have to go through I'll keep my fingers crossed for you

NikolaPiccola Tue 16-Jul-19 12:43:10

@Jowd92 I'm feeling hopeful, mostly because I haven't had my usual period and because I have been getting those faint lines. And a line is a line no matter how faint! (so I keep telling myself.)

Not yet. My doctor didn't want to book it until I was 6 weeks, just so we could see whether I was still bleeding or not and if my tests were still positive. So far they are. Fingers and toes crossed that they will be on Thursday too!

Jowd92 Tue 16-Jul-19 12:40:38

Yes the waiting is the hardest part days feel like weeks and weeks feel like months fingers crossed for you all goes well these little babys sure know how to make us worry right from the very start I had 3 early scans in epu and then my 12 week one I have a private scan booked for friday cant wait to find out if it's a boy or girl , do you have a scan booked in epu ?

NikolaPiccola Tue 16-Jul-19 12:27:05

@kkl1 well the doctor said he'd like to do urine tests on Thursday, but if my pregnancy tests are still showing positive (even if it's faint) he'll refer me for an early scan either on Friday (the next day) or for Monday. It depends on availability. I'm really hoping for Friday one as I'm seeing my boyfriend on the weekend so it'd be nice to tell him then if everything is ok or not.

@Jowd92 Congrats! hopefully, mine will be a little more straightforward. it's horrible waiting around, isn't it? Not knowing whether or not you are still pregnant or if it's all in your head.

Jowd92 Tue 16-Jul-19 12:21:28

Congratulations to you all I'm also a young mom at 27 although I dont feel it Haha I already have 3 beautiful children my youngest being 11 months and I'm currently 16 plus 2 with baby number 4 was a surprise baby but a much well loved one! smile I also had brown bleeding with my current pregnancy at around 5 weeks I had to have early scans in epu and only saw a pregnancy sac i went back a week later and finally saw a baby with a little heartbeat hope all goes well for you i had my 16 week appointment this morning and heard babys heart beat was so happy, good luck to you all

kkl1 Tue 16-Jul-19 12:13:14

That's really good atleast the bleeding has stopped and everything seems to be gettin on when do you think ur have ur scan xx

NikolaPiccola Tue 16-Jul-19 10:46:53

@MissSophieB397 I can't have ovulated earlier because we've only had sex twice that month during the fertile times. At the moment we live an hour away from eachother (soon to change) so we don't see eachother very often. I'm hoping that it's not a bad sign.

@Islandermum I don't see why not! I consider anything under 28 to be young as that is the average women have their first child these days haha. Congrats! I had a chemical pregnancy two months ago so I get the nerves. I'm still very worried because mine is still faint, but I haven't had anything like I did when I miscarried so I'm hoping that it's a good sign.

@poccadot aw how lovely! I'd love to have a boy as my first smile

poccadot Tue 16-Jul-19 10:43:39

@NikolaPiccola I'm having a little boy. I can't wait to meet him smile

Islandermum Tue 16-Jul-19 10:01:26

Hi! Can I join? I'm 23 (would you call that young?) and currently only 3-4 weeks pregnant (11dpo). I just got my positive on a clear blue digital this morning after getting positive FRERs since 7dpo!!!

I had a MC in May so I'm very nervous but all signs look good at the moment! Congrats on your BFP!

MissSophieB397 Tue 16-Jul-19 09:44:54

As per your test, mine was quite faint and I was only 3 weeks so you might be a bit earlier as for 6 weeks you'd expect it to be darker on a FRER they're the most sensitive so you might be quite early and ovulated later xx

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