Two weeks ago I told my manager that I was pregnant for the second time. I returned to work last September full-time. I really do enjoy work and at the time part-time wasn't a real option.
I didn't really expect my manager to be excited for me as am I aware that my maternity leave will create difficulties to an already over-stretched department. Neither has she children, so I couldn't expect her to understand.
However, I have been surprised at the negativity I have received from the rest of the team. Does anyone else here think it is rude for a colleague to say "Was it planned?" (also voiced by my manager for that matter) and then say "but how are you going to cope financially?". Many have responded with "Again?"
I really do enjoy my work and up until now I have felt supported but I can't help feeling that my work place have taken the line that I am taking a liberty becoming pregnant a second time.
Dh thinks that it is likely I appear to want it all and it is resented by the team.
I don't want this to become a work/life balance debate but I would like to know if anyone out there is in a similar position and what did they do.
The job I have now does have some impact on us as a family because I work so far away form home, but to be honest I don't think I want to carry on making the effort with this kind of attitude.
I'm upset at the moment so maybe I am blowing this out of proportion.
I so sympathise with you. Their attitude is disgraceful. I am in the same position although my bosses and colleagues have been overly nice about it .. although i know that underneath it all they are thinking "bl**dy hell" she's pregnant again and we will be left having extra work to do because of it. At the end of the day, a majority of working women will get pregnant at some time or other - and more than once . I know it's hard, but i would try to ignore it. The women in your team will find themselves in the position in the future and i hope they remember how they reacted to you. Rise above it. Congratulations and indulge in that wonderful feeling of being pregnant and enjoy!!!!
I'm finding it hard I work in a male environment and keep getting comments like what do you care you will be sat on your arse at home in a few months. They are also refusing to discuss me returning to work and are even having a go at me as in three weeks I am on holiday for two weeks to get married abroad and although this has been booked for two years and is three months before my intended maternity leave I get daily comments on how I am taking the piss.
I smile very nicely and completey ignore them my boss is the worst culprit. Although the other day when i declared to him if he carries on I will speak to the chairman with a member of the union regarding any issues he may have he went very quiet.