Not quite sure how or where to put this, but here goes...
I'm 32wks and starting to REALLY stress about the relationships I have with the future grandparents (both sides) and how I'm going ot manage their expectations when LO is born.
There's quite a bit of background info...
In-laws: Are indian, so culturally a little different (I'm English.) OH and I have been together 8 years. Pregnancy was planned, but they don't know that as they would not approve as we weren't married. MIL's reaction to us telling them I was pregnant was 'you'll have to get married' shortly followed by 'it will get called names at school' (meaning 'bastard'!!) We had intended to wait until LO was 2-3yrs so it could be part of the day, but due to their extreme reaction decided to get married. Thought they would be pleased when we told them we were getting married in 8wks, but again they went mad, asking why we were leaving it so long and couldn't we do it in 3wks(???!!!)They ruined the whole wedding experience for me which I don't know how to forgive them for, but thats probably another thread...
They're very critical of both me and my OH, not in a nasty way, just a different generation way.
I find it really hard to spend any time with them these days so my OH just goes on his own about once a week.
I want LO to have a good relationship with them and learn about their culture, but at the same time don't want some of their 'social issues' passed on.
How do I let go of all the resentment I have inside for them???? I really want to move on before LO is born.
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Funkycherry · 26/05/2010 07:27
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