Pelvic pain and looking after toddler, how do I do this?

[morningpaper]

The house is a mess. I am glued to the sofa periodically bursting into tears. I am feeding dd a diet of story tapes and television. I've got 3 more months to go. How do people cope with this? I can't really go out on bad days like today because I might get 'stuck'. DH can't take time off work. I've asked my mum for help but no go.

[sweetkitty]

Can't really add anything morningpaper but just watned to say (((hugs))) I don't think your DD will suffer too much with 3 months of cartoons etc dont beat yourself up about it.

I'm nearly 12 weeks and last time I had moderate SPD from 15 weeks and I'm dreading it this time hopefully it won't be any worse.

take care

[motherinferior]

Will send you article on SPD in case it helps, my love. Don't worry about the telly. Please don't. It's every pregnant mother's saviour. The house can stay a mess. You CAN take paracetamol which might help a bit. Thinking of you
xxxxxxxxxxx

[morningpaper]

Thanks would appreciate article. Am feeling very sorry for myself today.

[morningpaper]

I am knee deep in glitter.

[motherinferior]

It is leaving my in-tray now. It's just too horrible, SPD.

[Papillon]

How horrible for you.. you have my sympathies

I went to the osteopath yesterday for sciatica as was having problems... hope they don´t get to your level MP. I use a cream called Nature´s kiss... its helps relax my muscles and gives temporary relief. I also have used a homeopathic creme that was very good. Have you tried any muscle relaxant cremes.. on the natural side of things?
Are there any exercises you have tried etc?

[motherinferior]

SPD isn't muscles, it's the actual structure of your pelvis and although there are some things that will help it's basically one of Mother Nature's great f&ck-ups. Like birth, really.

[nailpolish]

oh god mp i had that too

my dd knew all the songs on all the programmes on cbeebies, im ashamed to say, but i had no choice. didnt have much help from anyone either



as soon as its over you will forget about it and you can make it up

did you get a (what the damn thing called again, my memorys gone) from the physio?

[Rochwen]

You have my full sympathies. I suffer from pelvic pain too but at least I don't have to look after a toddler. I know about being miserable can crying though.{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{bigbigbighugs}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[bossykate]

i really sympathise. i had this too and i found looking after ds almost impossible. it was the one time i thought going to work was the easier option than staying at home. how old is dd? any chance of a free nursery place or can you afford a mother's help? what about dh's family - are they near enough to help out?

[morningpaper]

dd is 2.5. Can't afford any help and dh's family are all miles away (and useless to boot!). I work a couple of days a week so that's ok but it's the days in between ... !

I tried a belt thing during my last pregnancy but found it too uncomfortable. I might try it again this time - I'll make an appointment.

Thanks for sympathy and advice!

[nailpolish]

please try it again mp - uncomfortable i know but might be worth a try

good luck

[morningpaper]

Thanks np!

[motherinferior]

You also need obstetric physio if such a thing is on offer in your neck of the woods.

[bossykate]

ime - fembrace best at night. try bellybras during the day - much more comfortable. used to use one of those cold gel pack things back and front at night. used to have physio with ultrasound treatment as well. i think the fact that i realised what it was v. early (thanks to mn) and was able to get treatment early really helped.

[motherinferior]

fembrace velcro also prone to give one impromptu bikini wax IIRC

[motherinferior]

It is a total PIG of a condition and I have just written about it again in the pathetic hope that it gets more ATTENTION.

[morningpaper]

I have just rung the surgery and spoken to my Doc who will get a referral to the physio dept for me in the post today, he was very nice about it.

[motherinferior]

Can you press for specialist physio? Because you really do need, ideally, a specialist.

[morningpaper]

I will ask at my next midwife appointment next week.

[joec]

hi had spd in all my 4 pregnancies.
was also looking after a toddler in my last one.
i was prescribed co-dydramol for the pain by my consultant and advised to get a tens machine.
which i did and it helped with the pain. is safe for the baby and you can wear it under your clothes and no one knows.
worth a try .. i really can sympathise ... know exactly what you are going through

[Gobbledigook]

MP, I have every sympathy - it's hell isn't it? I had SPD when pg with ds2 and ds1 was only 10-19 months during my pg. Like you, I'd often be in tears - I couldn't even walk to the post box.

All I could do was take strong painkillers and the physio gave me one of those belts that goes under the bump which helped a bit.

Just don't feel guilty about dd and do what you have to do to get through it.

I felt better as soon as ds2 was born.

I was really panicking about my pg with ds3 but I didn't have any problems at all.

[kate100]

Hi Morningpaper, I'm in exactly your boat. I'm nearly 36 weeks and have been suffering since week 24. DS is 23 months. He has become my little helper, if I drop someting he picks it up straight away and gets me my handbag on the occasions I feel brave enough to venture out. He also unloads the dishwasher and passes me the plates to put away. I've also had to teach him to climb into his carseat and crawl up and down the stairs safely. He's at nursery one day and week, so this gives me chane to recuperate. I've also got a cleaner which does help a lot. I feel very upset, that my little boy who is still so little has had to grow up so fast and that we're missing out on what should be a special time for the 2 of us before the new baby comes, but needs must I suppose. He watches a lot of TV too, but I figure at 2 he's not really going to remember this time and there won't be any lasting effects. I guess I'm also lucky in that my mum is disabled so DS does have some experience of helping out and being gentle. It's bloody awful, but it can't last forever and there will be a beautiful baby at the end.

[piglit]

I really feel for you morningpaper. My SPD is back again with avengence this week for some reason (I am 18 weeks) and I am also having problems with my hip too. I can't even go upstairs so ds (8 months) and I are hanging out downstairs all day. We usually have a walk every day but there's no chance of that at the moment so we are house bound. Every time I pick him up I can feel my joints scream out in pain. I have seen my osteo twice this week and will see her again tomorrow - the thought of this carrying on for another 22 weeks is not worth thinking about.

Thank god for cbeebies. Mind you, I found myself humming the theme tune to the "Story Makers" and talking like Blue Cow earlier.....