anyone else worrying all the time about pregnancy?

[roundabout1]

I am 14 weeks & am finding it hard to be optimistic about my pregnancy. I had an early mc 2 weeks before conceiving this time & even though to date I've no unwanted symptoms but plenty of normal pg symptoms just don't feel like everything is going ok. Have just had a letter from the hospital saying they need to redo my blood tests from my 12 wk appointment so now that has me worried. Am I worrying unnecessarily. When I was pg with my dd I didn't obsess over everything but this time it's so different. I have has health problems in the years in between so don't know whether that has knocked my confidence body wise or if it's because of the mc or because I'm older. I'm avoiding telling people I'm pg when possible, only those that it's obvious too. So so different from the first time round when I was blabbing it to everyone. Please tell me it's not just me!

[BusyMissIzzy]

No, it's not just you at all. I don't know if I've just watched too much ER on TV, or if I'm pessimistic by nature, but I'm finding it hard not to be constantly terrified and anxious. I have absolutely no reason to be, but I can't help it! I'm 27 weeks now, so I am feeling a bit more positive than in the earlier stages. And being able to feel the LO kicking and squirming away is always a reassuring sign. But early on, when you just have to assume that everything's OK in there, it's easy to worry. Try not to worry unnecessarily though, it's not good for you! I'm sure in a few months time you'll be looking back and wondering why you worried so much

[roundabout1]

Thanks Busy Miss - do you know I love ER so maybe that's not helped. I'm not feeling any movement yet either & didn't get a 12 week scan as I had one at 8 weeks. So to my mind the only proof I've got that there is anything inside me is a very blurred picture of a baked bean shape, taken a while ago - oh that & feeling crap & slightly fat but no proper bump shape!

[hippopo]

Thank goodness I am not the only one. I am naturally a worrier and always seem to think the worst about a situation. This is something that I have been working on the last couple of years but I guess when you are pregnant all bets are off and you revert to your natural self. I am driving my DH mad though who is naturally optimistic.

I am just over 9 weeks at moment and also had an early scan at 8 weeks. I have a feeling we are going to be bankrupt when the baby arrives as I want to book myself in for another next week.

So I would say try not to worry but it doesn't seem to work when people say it to me.

Thinking of you and I am sure everything will be fine,

[twolittlekings]

Hello

you are not alone. I have just had my second DS and I worried with both pregnancies. The second was worse as I had had 2 mc between. Now that he ha been born I am still worrying - especially as it is flu season so I guess it is just me. I know that it can be very negative and so I do try to not think about all the bad things that could happen and take each day as it comes, but it's not in my nature so quite hard!!

[Chynah]

I worry alot too. I have had a miscarriage previously and had a very high risk result from nt scan which led to CVS (all clear thankfully). Now i am 21 weeks and still not feeling her kick properly so I worry about that (sure I'd felt DS alot by now). And I'm getting swine flu jab later so worrying about that as well! 21 week vscan tomorrow so thats something else to worry about too!

[bigpreggybelly]

You're bound to worry, especially at first - its natural. I've been worrying all the way through and I'm 35 weeks now (although I do worry a bit less now than I did at the start)! I won't stop worrying until its been born!

Part of the reason for me is that I'm 42, its my first baby, and don't believe I will get another chance again.

[whensmydayoff]

OMG, Now im in the right thread!!

I had a very high Risk PG with DS. I had scans every 4/2 weeks and every time there was some problem/scare. Every blood test brought more bad news. I handled it really well at the time. He was born by emerg C section because I was bleeding.

Im not going to list the probs but it was all fine in the end and I always felt he would be.

This PG....

I have worried/lost sleep/cried about the following...

toxoplasmosis
Placenta previa again
Placenta acreta
will it be twins, i wont cope
Having another CS and not being able to have more children.
Bleeding (had none this time but fully expect to).
Bleeding, a CS followed by hystorectomy
Swine Flu (a particular favourite)
Baby being early
Baby having reflux again
What if it's another boy and I can't have anymore children.
What if one of my in-laws give the baby swine flu.(Because it would be worse if an in-law caused it
What if the exhaustion makes me a bad mother to my 2.5 yr old and I scar him for life.
Now my new hobby....Is the baby back to back, side to side, breech STILL IN THERE!!

My DH is hovering in background and is convinced I've missed some!!

Seeeeee, see how normal YOU are >and breathe

[roundabout1]

Thanks girls, so pleased I'm fairly normal! If I'm busy I'm ok it's when I'm not that my mind goes into overdrive. This appointment I have for getting my blood tests redone is stressing me out at the moment, part of me thinks they've lost it but then the nagging bit in my brain keeps thinking that it's bad news & the they are saying they need another sample just to stop me worrying & when I get there I will have bad news.
Whensmydayoff - There are so many things to worry about aren't there. Am practising breathing as I type!

[Bunnyjo]

Oh roundabout1, you sound just like me. I am a born worrier too.

And whensmydayoff, you have had me in fits of giggles! I am exactly the same as you. I was a very high risk pg last with dd, due to a pre-existing renal condition. I was scanned at 9,12,20,22,24,28,32 and 35 weeks. For some reason (probably the fact I hadn't ventured onto the web researching every possible thing that could go wrong) I was remarkably relaxed.

With this pg, my BP is already raised, so I think I'll be having another very high risk pg... And my mind has gone into overdrive already. I am on knicker watch (for no reason other than paranoia), symptom watch, I'm fretting about pre-eclampsia again (even though the stats are on my side), worried about IUGR (even though DD wasn't affected and was born a healthy 7lb 6oz)... In fact I am seriously worried about EVERYTHING!

[viksam]

OMG Im so glad im not the only one turning myself inside out with worry! Im 8+4 weeks after first IUI after 5 years FTC. So we really really want everything to be ok. I blarted the other day because I was convinced i was to tired from working to hard and that i had done myself an injustice! I really dont want to be anxious all the time and spoil what may be my only chance to enjoy pregnancy, so how do we stop worrying? My first antenatal appointement isnt till 29th dec, i was really hoping it would be before xmas as I want to tell the folks on xmas day, can you request a scan to stop you from worrying? Has anyone got a doppler? Has it helped? Hope everyone is doing ok today!

[Lindaandres107]

This is my first ever pregnancy. Got pregnant after smoking weed and drinking (my nerdy butt stopped right at my literal phase). I OBSESS over the worry of miscarriage. That is my number one fear. I emotionally and physically wouldn't be able to handle it. To the point of suicidal thoughts (TMI). It's very bad and once I get money im going to get counseling services. I was less worried until I learned more about missed miscarriages. I thought, oh, i don't bleed or cramp. I'm great! Oh, but there's that slight possibility of the baby still being passed. Everyday i want to rip my hair out cause my symptoms constantly go away. I'll get like a day of symptoms and then they fluctuate. It angers me to no end.

[BeingATwatItsABingThing]

Op, I could have written your post!

I had to have my first bloods redone so I booked an extra early scan. I have now had three scans: two private and my 12 week scan. I insisted on booking a 16 week scan to find out the sex and just see my baby again.

I’m panicking all the time with it. DD wasn’t planned and I didn’t worry once that the pregnancy would be unsuccessful. I had an EMC in January 2019 and this pregnancy took 13 cycles so I am just so worried something will go wrong.

Now with Covid-19, I’m stuck at home and I can’t stop thinking about it all. At least when I’m at work, my mind it preoccupied with teaching. I also announced my pregnancy two days into my isolation and haven’t really seen anyone since to talk about it.