Feel free to call me a cow, but am I being over the top in wanting people to respect my own personal space? I'm almost 24 weeks pregnant, and I am getting rather fed up with people patting my tummy / rubbing my tummy etc.
Firstly, it's toooooo hot to have people pawning over me. Secondly, I have never ever patted a pregnant woman's tummy before, and never expected anybody to do it to me! I don't mind my DH doing it, I encourage this, but only so he can be involved with the baby a bit more.
I'm going to a wedding on Friday and loads of DH's family will be there. How can I avoid being touched to the point where I growl in annoyance? Or am I being unreasonable in wanting people to at least ASK before they touch me!
Has anybody else felt like the minute they get a bump, it's a free for all in touching it, like a lucky Buddah or something?!
Sympathies elf. Strange though - I'm in my third pregnancy and can honestly say that NO-ONE has ever touched my tummy except for the invited or dh! I'm now wondering what "bugger off" signals I must be giving out - and they must be strong!
All I can suggest is to put a physical barrier in the way - eg hold a bag over your stomach (a clutch bag or one that you hook over your wrist), or put your arm across your stomach if people start invading your space. I have to say also that if it was me and someone came towards me with their hand outstretched I would take a step backwards and hope they get the hint!
Or - make sure that as far a possible you always have a glass in your hand and hold that in front of your bump. HTH.
Quickly get a T-Shirt printed with "Step Away From The Bump" written on it! And then let me know where you got it done so I can get one. I'm 20 weeks and have quite a bump and I HATE being pawed by strangers, colleagues etc
Urgh, I don't like it either Elf, although not too bothered if a woman touche me, if a man tries to touch it I want to smack them in the face! Happens to me a lot at work (I work in a pub), I really don't like it, urgh, I'm getting wound up thinking just thinking about it!!!
Miaou, I think you and I have the same vibes. I really would dislike being patted by strangers - or even people I know and i think my body language was quite standoffish. I also didn't talk about being pregnant and if someone started the conversation I steered it away fast. Found it unutterably tedious to go through the whole 'boy or girl?/are you excited?/when it is it due' rigmarole over and over again.
I think the body language tricks - maintaining a lot of space between you, arms over bump, glass in hand etc etc sound good.
I also HATED being told 'ooh you are so big' and rude crap like that. I'd say, quite crossly, 'I am pregnant. There is a baby in there actually.'