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Is it normal to have such terrible nightmares about your baby?

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mosschops30 Wed 11-Nov-09 11:46:01

Am feeling so awful today sad, after a terrible nightmare about my unborn baby.
It was so distressing, I woke up and just felt like crying.
We had a bordeline result from nuchal scan in early pregnancy, our eventual result was 1:602.
I have been fine thoughout the pregnancy but now find myself worrying more and more.

The dream last night just confirmed my fears, it was terrible, and I was terrible, I hated myself in the dream sad

Its knocked me for six and I almost dont want to go into labour now as am scared dream will be true (although most bits of it are impossible).

Is it normal to be like this?

MadameDuBain Wed 11-Nov-09 11:52:10

I had some awful and weird dreams the first time I was pg, including giving both to various types of animals shock and also having a baby that was really tiny - like just a few cm long - and losing it in a drawer! If you have a specific worry it's even more likely I think. I'm sure it's very normal.

MadameDuBain Wed 11-Nov-09 11:53:33

Both = birth!

RealityBites Wed 11-Nov-09 11:55:32

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mosschops30 Wed 11-Nov-09 11:55:46

This is my 3rd baby so not about the birth as such, more about the baby.
I remember having weird dreams 1st time round (leaving baby and forgetting about it etc) and with ds (2nd) I dreamt about how he would look etc.
But Ive barely dreamt about this baby, and now this terrible nightmare has just made me feel awful sad

RealityBites Wed 11-Nov-09 12:00:37

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MadameDuBain Wed 11-Nov-09 12:06:12

Dreams can be a way of processing and going over your worries - it doesn't mean how you were in the dream is a reflection of you. I know how a bad dream can shake you up though, it's horrible.

somewhathorrified Wed 11-Nov-09 12:06:45

The nightmares was one of the first thing my 2 SiL's warned me about in pregnancy. It's yet another of those unspoken side effects and is perfectly normal, after all it's a new unknown life you are bringing into this world, if that doesn't cause anxiety issues what will!

AKMD Wed 11-Nov-09 12:12:45

One night I dreamed that I put the baby in a cardboard box in my parents' garden to sleep... in the rain. hmm

Now I get horrific nightmares but thankfully the baby isn't part fo them.

ShinyAndNew Wed 11-Nov-09 12:18:21

I haven't but my childless sister dreamt that she had, had a baby and didn't want it so she locked it in the cuboard. When I got pg she decided that having a baby wouldn't be all that bad, so she took it out of the cuboard. It was still alive, but apparently was very scruffy looking, after spending the first few years of it's life in a cuboard so she put it back and decided to have a new, less scruffy baby shock

My other sister has very vivid dreams when she is pg. She once woke her dp up beating bhim around the head and screaming at him because she thought he was laying on their unborn baby. She went back to sleep immediately while he laid awake trying to figure out what the hell had just happened.

She has also dreamt that she had 6 babies/had kittens/gave birth to an alien/forgot her baby in the hospital/lost her older children because she was too busy looking after the baby.

mosschops30 Wed 11-Nov-09 12:25:44

I know what youre all saying, and Ive had those type of dreams too but this was nothing like that.
My baby was born terribly disabled, he was huge (about the size of a 3 year old), he wasnt even on the maternity ward with the other babies but outside in the corridor.
I couldnt bond with him, I didnt want to see him, and thwn I felt so awful, but I did end up loving him so much.
Am almost in tears typing this, its so horrible

Summerfruit Wed 11-Nov-09 12:28:20

I had some terrifying dreams as well when I was pregnant, the worst one was :

I was in the middle of a forest, it was dark and I had my baby in my arms..could hear some wolves and they were after me and I was running, but they caught up with me and they took the baby away from me...thanks god it was only a dream but will never be able to forget I think !

RealityBites Wed 11-Nov-09 12:36:07

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cory Wed 11-Nov-09 12:42:17

I had one ghastly one when expecting ds: the ante-natal scan showing that his head was upside-down and the doctor gently explaining to me that I couldn't let a child like that be born and that someting had to be done about it. Particularly odd, as I refused the amnio, being determined that I would not abort- so perhaps I did have fears around that.

Ds is now 9 and his head is definitely screwed on right, but I can still hear my own dream-voice sobbing that my daughter is out there in the waiting room, she's never seen me cry, what can I say to her, she'll know something is wrong.

Absolutely horrible - but certainly not an omen. It's just the subconscious playing tricks.

Tomatefarcie Wed 11-Nov-09 12:44:13

When pg with DD1, everybody kept telling me how low I was carrying her. I kept dreaming the baby was dropping under my skin down to my knee, so much so I couldn't walk anymore.

Can't remember dreaming anything weird with DD2, but this time round, dreams have started going bonkers. Mw told me baby is breech (31wks pg), so I have dreamt I had to have a section. Woke up from anaesthetic to find the surgeons had done a huge Y incision on me, as in autopsy. Also dreamt that the baby came out wrapped up in cord, am talking head to toe, and the outcome wasn't good. sad.

Definitely a way of processing our worries, but good grief, it isn't nice. (I also keep dreaming about ex bfs, whom I haven't seen or heard of in years...wtf?)

moonsquirter Wed 11-Nov-09 12:44:40

DD is now 3.5 and I still vividly remember some of the dreams I had when pg with her. So distressing that I would wake up in floods of tears and take days to get back to feeling ok again.

I guess it's normal to be anxious about something so momentous and where we have such huge responsibility. Still not quite got my head round it second time round either!

WenisLicker Wed 11-Nov-09 12:44:54

I think it's normal.

With DS I dreamt that the baby I gave birth to was inside out and was just an unformed, baby sized blob of veins and gore, he was alive and tried to breastfeed but I didn't want him so left him in a toilet cubicle.

I was heartbroken and still think about now in my third pregnancy.

Please don't get upset, it's our crazy, hormone overloaded subconscious!

bigpreggybelly Wed 11-Nov-09 13:34:50

My book says these types of dream are very common in the last trimester.

somethinganything Wed 11-Nov-09 19:56:24

Poor you - it's so horrible. I had the most horrendous, vivid dream about stillbirth when I was heavily pregnant with DD - it was just so real. I woke up in the labour ward, DH had his head in his hands and no-one would say anything to me and then I saw this grey motionless baby boy lying in the weighing scales. I was so shaken by it at the time, it was just awful. But I mentioned it to the MW at the next appointment and she said it's incredibly common in the late stages of pregnancy.

I hope you don't get any more.

CarGirl Wed 11-Nov-09 20:01:54

I had horrid vivid nightmares too about what I gave birth to, worst two were giving birth to lots of aliens who then died and the other was about a baby without a proper brain (sorry don't know the technical term for it).

Both left me traumatised for ages after waking up not knowing if it was real or not and crying etc

Arsed Wed 11-Nov-09 20:06:39

Poor you

The dreams are really common though. Mine we're either unbeliveable filthy or just strange.

The most memorable one was giving birth to a litter of black labrador puppies.

tinylion Wed 11-Nov-09 20:14:24

I once dreamt I gave birth to a baby who was so small I had to put it to bed in a match box, and then I lost it down the back of the sofa and I could hear it crying and hungry but I couldn't find it.

It sounds so silly, but at the time, I was heartbroken and woke up crying and in tears and all over the place.

Many hugs and warming cuddles to you...

you're not the only one....bl**dy hormones!

Freyjaz Thu 12-Nov-09 08:48:44

I had a dream that i gave birth to kittens and they were all downstairs and stuck in a cage with these little suits on....it was really weird....pregnancy dreams r really really strange

LuckyC Thu 12-Nov-09 09:05:01

Last night I dreamt I left the baby in the fridge shock

somethinganything Thu 12-Nov-09 09:19:55

Not pregnancy related but last night I dreamt DH and I had decided to go off on holiday and had just got to the airport and put (22-month-old) DD in a cab and sent her away - who knows where?! Haven't started having nightmares about this baby yet

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