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Sexiness in late pregnancy

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LissyGlitter Tue 10-Nov-09 11:45:31

Last night I took a look at myself lying in bed- I had most of the pillows in the house propping me up to help with heartburn, DPs old t shirt on to stop me scratching my stretchmarks, massive support belt for SPD, a belly that has gone past the point of beautifully fertile and into the realm of just bloody massive, ankles that are wider than my legs, bra that is somewhere between a teenagers training bra and an old ladies boulder holder, breastpads, panty liner stuck in old grotty massive knickers, dark body hair everywhere, and if I could see my bits, I am pretty sure they are swollen and full of varicose veins! And still DP was cuddling and kissing me and fetching me snacks and so on! He even half heartedly tried to seduce me, bless him. It was lovely because I'm pretty sure he knew it was out of the question (he has to turn me in bed due to the SPD) but he made me feel wanted anyway. Instead we just talked about what we are going to do once I am up for it after the birth.

Do you lot have stories of a sex life in very late pregnancy? With my first, we had sex to bring on the labour - that seems laughable now!

nomorebooze Tue 10-Nov-09 13:40:20

Hi lissyglitter,
wanted to bump you! not as bad as you are describing but feel for you, i also feel so unattractive, this is my first and have large chest (gone up to 34h went shopping for maternity clothes last week and cried when i got home nothing fitted! why do all tops and dresses seem to be cut to fit under the bust, on me they sit have way up my boob. i have also started with kankles.
ps: stop beating yourself up your dp sounds lovely, and will love you for you. remember you are carrying his child!!!!! xx

bethoo Tue 10-Nov-09 13:49:17

i find i just cant get into a position! missionary is out and doggy is out! the only thing is spooning but i need ot be propped like you as have terrible heartburn! i feel like a blob too and have not seen my ladies bits for weeks now! i feel like a beached whale! and if i try to repond by moving i get terrible stitch like pain in the sides of my tummy! i am 32 weeks!

neverknowinglyundercatered Tue 10-Nov-09 14:39:41

Hi Lissy, could have written your post myself (I'm due Saturday) I too have SPD and can't believe the pain. My DH is being a superstar but there is no chance at all of us having sex to move things on, the idea is laughable!

We did with DS1 I seem to recall a jovial 'come on then, brace yourself' type conversation but have no idea of the mechanics we adopted!

All the best for the little one, and whatever you get up to afterwards! wink

Purplebuns Tue 10-Nov-09 14:46:36

Hi, there is still other things to do... LOL
I managed to go on top right until the end, but I didn't have spd!

LissyGlitter Tue 10-Nov-09 14:53:27

Ooh, discussion of the day!

definitelygotascrewloose Tue 10-Nov-09 15:10:44

I was a rampaging nymphomaniac during pregnancy. At least once a day, right up to the very end.

Now the baby is here sex feels more like canoeing - a nice idea, and something I might like to try one day, providing it was warm and sunny, and the water looked clean, and I had the right clothes, and the instructor looked trustworthy, and I'd packed some tasty snacks for afterwards...

How does anyone ever manage to have more than one child???

mrsbean78 Tue 10-Nov-09 15:12:28

Hey Lissy,
I need to be turned over more than turned on at the moment, too! Commiserations. I wish I could regale you with tales of wild sexual abandon in the third trimester but.. well.. I can't. I will be eating pineapple and having curry instead. 1 week and 1 day to EDD...

displayuntilbestbefore Tue 10-Nov-09 15:15:53

like definitely I couldn't get enough of it during pregnancy and although dh and I have active sex life anyway, even he laughed at how often I seemed to be sidling up to him!!!Must be the hormones!
Sex to boost labour didn't work for any of mine but it was fun and, LissyGlitter if your DP can't resist you even with your pillows, spd and chubby ankles, just think what it will be like afterwards! grin

shinybaubles Tue 10-Nov-09 15:19:59

also like definitely I think I have gone sex mad and am 32 weeks now have been like this the whole time, only managing it every 2 or 3 days at the moment and it doesn't feel like enough. Have to say when pregnant with ds - sex was pretty much not happening - funny how every pregnancy is different.

gingerkirsty Tue 10-Nov-09 15:24:41

At 27 weeks I feel fine looks-wise and am lucky enough not to have SPD, but my sex drive has vanished completely in any case! DH being very good about it, we did try the other night but it just wasn't doing anything for me, he could tell, so we abandoned ship!!! I wish I felt differently because physically I am definitely still up to the job and I know I might not be later!

Malificence Tue 10-Nov-09 15:40:40

I think these stories are a beautiful antidote to the doom and gloom on the relationship board where husbands have no interest in their pregnant wives.smile
There are plenty of lovely men out there, mine included.

Ruthie22 Tue 10-Nov-09 16:33:59

I was also a raging nympho and had some of my best orgasms ever at 30+ weeks pregnant! blush
ok i was lucky enough not to have spd but i did suffer chronic heartburn and was also the size of a beached whale by the end but my lovely man still found me attractive and all those hormones meant i couldn't get enough of him either! (sighs longingly... if only it were as easy with a 7 month old! Her waking up time is always impeccable!!!!)

dizietsma Tue 10-Nov-09 17:24:32

DH claims he found me very attractive in pregnancy, bless him, and I'm pretty sure it was sex that ensured DD was born on her due date grin. It does get ridiculous at the end though, with your big preggers belly bouncing about...blush

Tryingtobeorganisedthisyear Tue 10-Nov-09 17:32:57

OMG - am I the only one that is knackered, sore and its the last thing on my mind! And I'm only 18 weeks! Poor dh hasn't been near for months....especially since I slope of to bed at 9pm and have DS up in the night adding to the exhaustion

Better not let him read this thread or I;m in big trouble hmm

dizietsma Tue 10-Nov-09 17:40:33

Well, that was with my first pregnancy. Pretty sure that with the next one I will be feeling more like you are Tryingtobeorganised!

happyloris Tue 10-Nov-09 18:21:33

I never got the 2nd trimester libido surge, pregnancy hormones just made me feel unsexy from about 5 months onwards, though feeling healthy and well in every other way. We were still having sex apart from the last few weeks, though trying to find a comfy position got a bit ridiculous. I was massively relieved to discover that I felt back to normal soon after I'd actually had the baby.
I think it just goes to show everyone's different, and it's a waste of time to worry too much about the next stage on. I felt really sad not wanting much sex while pregnant because I was sure I'd be off it for ages with a small baby but it hasn't turned out like that. Now all we need is some uninterrupted time in which to have a love life...hmm

Loosingmymind Tue 10-Nov-09 18:21:48

Tryingtobe You are not the only one - with both my pregnancies I think me & DH only had sex twice! blush

Not for his lack of trying though...

fiziwizzle Tue 10-Nov-09 18:41:39

My libido has been the same throughout my pregnancy to date (27w) as it was before. I'm worried about it dropping off a cliff after pregnancy - great to hear that it doesn't always happen, happyloris!

And of course I have plenty of time left for it to drop off in late pregnancy too... Hope not though wink

BulletProofMum Tue 10-Nov-09 19:40:32

23 sweeks and horny as hell! It's the best hing about pregnancy!

I've told DH but he's not too bothered so I'm normally on my own blush!

We can jsut about manage missionary but will soon need to switch to doggy. I'm too lazy to go on top and never go the hange of spooning - maybe my arse is too big!

Can't say I feel sexy!

Dreading popping as I know I face a year of no libido whatsoever whilst bf!

estar Tue 10-Nov-09 19:47:14

shinybaubles, I first read your post that you were 'only' managing it two or three times a day - shock!! Re-read it and realised that sounded much more normal

In general, I lose my sex drive in every pregnancy. However, last time (3rd preg) in the last month we did it a couple of times a week, mainly because I wanted that baby out! I have bad SPD but managed it with me on top if I sat up and kept my knees almost together. I'm wincing at the thought now because my SPD is much worse in this pregnancy and can't even imagine that (am only 23 weeks! ) Maybe the desperation will take over at the end again. It's supposed to be the best thing for softening the cervix and preparing for birth, which at nine months somehow becomes quite a turn-on hmm.

I haven't entirely gone off the idea of sex altogether though, irritatingly enough. I keep having some lovely dreams where DH and I get it on and I had some lovely thoughts in the bath the other day. I was all ready to go and surprise him in the bedroom but then when I got out of the water and the feeling of weightlessness was replaced by searing pain, well, somehow I went right off the idea again....

woodhj Tue 10-Nov-09 20:03:53

Just read the original comment and PLEASE PLEASE someone tell me what varicose veins on your minky (DD's word)is all about i never had this with DD and could not believe it when i checked only to find a varicose vein waving back at me!!!

woodhj Tue 10-Nov-09 20:11:15

I have to comment more on this, (just commented above) i feel like i am apologies constantly to my DH for how i look. If im not worried about piles its thrush. He keeps making little hints about nookie even offered to swap sides in bed so i could watch tv while we had sex (i think that was his strange way of trying to pursuade me)

Im 30 weeks and not really that big but just feel like the most unattractive woman on earth.

Mamamoppel Tue 10-Nov-09 20:17:36

Was totally fine in first pregnancy and quite keen but second pregnancy is quite different. First I discovered my womb had flipped backwards (retroverted uterus) after having dd and was causing unspeakable pain in early pregnancy because it was in the way, then SPD kicked in making me feel achy just thinking about sex.
Every pregnancy really is different. Oh, and I had some really fantastic dreams in my first pregnancy blush and none so far with this sad.

LissyGlitter Tue 10-Nov-09 21:39:44

I was rampant first time around, this time, not so much...

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