I have heard some stories about some midwives not being the nicest, most sympathetic people in the world but never expected to get a horrible one myself. At our first appointment I went home in tears because the MW was so awful. She raised her eyebrows at my weight and wrote it down as 10kg more than it actually is (I'm a healthy size 10 so was a bit ), would not stop going on about the benefits I could claim from the council (none of which apply to me and yes, I did tell her this) and then declared that her responsibility was to the baby, not to me, and that our next appointment would be at my house so that she could check for signs of alcohol/drug abuse and domestic violence and wouldn't stop going on about that either. The first 2 things were just irritating but the third had me freaking out that she thought that I was an unfit person to be a mother and would try to take the baby away. At the appointment at my house it was fine as I had my husband and my mum there for backup (!) but at the last 2 appointments I've had with her she has been incredibly patronising and keeps exchanging glances with her assistant every time I say anything. I lied on the medical questionnaire she gave me as I definitely didn't want to tell her that I had counselling for depression a few years ago and even though I've been feeling very overwhelmed during my pregnancy I don't want to go to her or my doctor at the same practice for help as I'm just too scared. Can I change midwives and go to one at a different practice or is there something else I can do to get help?
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