I know how terribly selfish I sound and I am ashamed but have to admit, I am not enjoying this pregnancy and cannot actually wait until it?s over. I was coping up until last week but now its getting unbearable. Am 26+4. Am counting the weeks and days - I know that?s awful. I know how lucky I am that I can get pregnant at all and can?t begin to imagine the heartache people go through over fertility problems. I hope I don?t come across as insensitive and am so sorry if I do. I just can?t help it.
After having a miscarriage in February I thought I would really appreciate the fact that this one is successful.
It?s not even that I?m having a hard pregnancy or an unplanned pregnancy or am in ill health in any way. Then my feelings would be somewhat reasonable. I feel fine. I?m just really selfish to be honest, it?s not looking like I?m going to be the best mother to this baby - I don?t have that earth mother /enjoying the miracle of pregnancy feelings whatsoever.
I want my baby, I just want him here. I love to feel him kick and move and know he?s ok but id prefer him to be out of my body. I?m so embarrassed and ashamed.
The terrible truth about me is I don?t want pregnancy to end because, like a ?normal? mother I?m desperate to see my baby or that I?m so sick I can?t function or can?t work etc... But simply because I?m selfish - I want my body back to myself - mostly my figure ? I?ve put on ridiculous weight to date and I want to go on a diet and get back into my old clothes ? I like nice clothes and I want to wear them again. I cant wait to get back to dieting and back to feeling half human - I feel like a disgusting fat pig like this and I hate it, I hate when I catch my reflection in the mirror and I?m embarrassed, I cant wait to go on maternity leave so I can hide from people because I don?t want people to see me like this. Vanity is one of the reasons I want this to end and I believe that?s disgusting.
I want a cigarette. Desperately. I found it really difficult to give up for the pregnancy and I know there is no way I will smoke until I have this baby but hoped not to go back on them once ds is here but know I will. I?m not making excuses but work has been really stressful ? am being somewhat bullied and some of you will remember my thread, my DH cheated on me over a weekend when I was 8 ? 9 weeks pregnant which I?m still devastated about and cant seem to get past. Id also do anything for a few glasses of wine with that cigarette (I?m a no alcohol whatsoever person during pregnancy), I want to wake up once a month with a hangover and I want to go dancing with my friends and DH every now and then.
These are all such ridiculous reasons for wanting my poor baby out of my body and I?m wracked with guilt for having them. I could never admit this to anyone in real life.
I?m even resenting the fact that I ?have? to try and breastfeed again (very bad experience with dd) as this will delay my dieting, having a drink, having a cigarette etc..
My behaviour/ thoughts are disgusting and I?m aware of that.
I have a 4 year old dd and that was an unplanned very unexpected pregnancy yet I displayed waaay more maternal instincts during the pregnancy and I believe that I have been a good mother to her - far from perfect but she is loved to pieces and a very happy little girl. This is a much wanted/ planned baby and I cant understand why I?m behaving/ feeling this way.
I am counting the days. It?s ridiculous that I know that I have 13 weeks and 3 days until my due date which feels like an eternity. I also went 11 days over with dd and am absolutely terrified that the same is going to happen. I would resent the extra days of this.
I?m terrified I?m going to be an awful mother. My priorities are all wrong.
I?m sorry this has been so long. Its almost a relief to get some of this off my chest ? as I cant admit it elsewhere. Thank you x
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The terrible truth about me. I hate this pregnancy.
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