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Do men always (think they) want sons?

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neutralnickname Mon 12-Oct-09 15:32:13

Is it because they can imagine bonding with their mini-me's better than with a daughter?

Anyone had a DP/H actually disappointed/less interested when presented with a DD(and apologies for bringing it up if so shock ?

TrillianSlasher Mon 12-Oct-09 15:35:07

No children yet (and no immediate plans) but DP is actually more keen for a DD who will of course be a Daddy's girl.

(where more = slightly further along the scale from 'no way man' to 'I want babies NOW' - not indicating actual keenness)

pagwatch Mon 12-Oct-09 15:36:22


Dh was as excicted about DD as he was about DS. No difference at all. There never was - he didn't care if we had a boy or a girl - justr wanted a baby smile

reikizen Mon 12-Oct-09 15:36:24

No, my dp wanted girls. Was a bit worried about having a boy second time round infact but she very considerately was a girl too!

Snorbs Mon 12-Oct-09 15:52:30

I'm a dad and I've got a DS and a DD. I've got no preferences either way - they're both fab.

MrsBadger Mon 12-Oct-09 15:54:32

in their imaginations yes because of mini-me phenomenon, future games of football etc

in reality all the ones I know have been smitten by their daughters once they are born and they realise that girls do not arrive dressed in pink frills and demanding ponies.

UnquietDad Mon 12-Oct-09 15:54:39

No. Why?...

I wanted 2 girls or 1 of each (we got the latter). 2 sons would have been a nightmare.

BexJ78 Mon 12-Oct-09 16:38:28

my DH did initially say he would have preferred a boy, I think because he is from a very male family (ie, three brothers, no sisters, predominantly male cousins etc..)
But scan showed we are having a DD and he really seems to be coming round to the idea. I think he is really quite excited!!

extremelychocolateymilkroll Mon 12-Oct-09 17:18:34

Have 1 dd and another on the way. Dh very pleased with both - thinks it will be nice for dd to have a sister. Every guy I know who has a dd spoils her rotten.

heavenstobetsy Mon 12-Oct-09 17:26:30

my DP didn't have any preference first time round - we got DD. This time he was keen on another DD and I am pretty sure his face dropped for a couple of seconds when the sonographer said boy!

he really didn't care either way - he just wanted children

xmaximumx Mon 12-Oct-09 17:44:47

I'm pregnant with our first and my DP wants a boy, I think it's the mini me complex but one of his main concerns is having to take a little girl into the mens room if he takes her out on his own! We don't find out for another few weeks but I'm sure he'll be delighted either way, he's such a softie he'd love to have a daddy's girl, although I do worry that if it is a girl he won't let her date until she's at least 40.

AllGoneSouth Mon 12-Oct-09 17:49:17

DH wasn't bothered either way with both pregnancies, which resulted in our DDs. I asked him a few years ago if he would ever want to try for a boy but said he was more than happy with what we had and had never felt he's missed out in any way.

Although tbh now that they are teenagers he doesn't always 'get' them (loves them to bits though smile)

Tomatefarcie Mon 12-Oct-09 17:50:36

We have 2 DDs, and Dp was very disappointed both times. Well, more the second time really. He didn't bond with DD2 for months, didn't hold her much at first, didn't help me at all, and to be honest, it's left me bitter.

He loves them both like mad now, they're Daddy's girls. He is so proud of them, I have seen him have tears in his eyes with pride, but he says he doesn't feel complete without a son.

We're expecting a third now, and I have been "preparing" him for another girl, just in case.

It makes me very sad, I have to say.

jellybeans Mon 12-Oct-09 17:59:23

I find, in general, men often would like boys and women girls, if they have more than one. Just a general observation, I was never bothered either way,DH was very happy with DDs but was over the moon when we had DS as he had hoped for a son one day, only told me this after we had DS!! Not to say he preferred any gender at all, he just thought be nice to experience each.

HeadFairy Mon 12-Oct-09 18:00:35

when we found out we're expecting a girl for dc2 dh did say "oh well, at least I've got ds to concentrate on". I know he's talking crap even if he doesn't... dd will be as much of a daddy's girl as ds is a mummy's boy! Both my nieces adore him and he's brilliant with them so I suspect he'll be eating his words very soon after she arrives!

blondiep14 Mon 12-Oct-09 18:26:07

My Dad wanted girls, and got 3. He didn't want mini-me's because he was a nightmare!

JaMmRocks Mon 12-Oct-09 18:30:15

I do think DP wanted a son first time, but this was fuelled by not actually wanting a baby at all DS1 was a (happy in the end) accident. The second time he didn't really mind, thought having a girl would be nice but not enough to care either way. Cue arrival of DS2

Mama2b5 Mon 12-Oct-09 22:01:00

Got 3 DD between us already, so i really want a DS, DH said his not really bothered just wants healthy baby, but i said "i sure am"!grin so im more bothered then he is! clearly!

yousaidit Mon 12-Oct-09 22:04:23

no, dh adores dd, and quite bviously different in his behaviour to ds sad. in fact i would say dh seemed quite underwhelmed at the arrival of ds, who i adore. i hate thinking about it, tbh.

ErikaMaye Mon 12-Oct-09 22:46:50

DP really wanted a little girl, until we went to the 20 week scan and saw he was most certainly a boy - then he went around grinning like a Cheshire cat regardless He spent the weeks before we found out taking every oppotunity to say to my belly "Be a girl!!!". Now he keeps proudly telling everyone within earshot that we're expecting a son

My dad on the other hand is very favoured towards my brother.

GoppingOtter Mon 12-Oct-09 22:49:05

yousaidit - time will change that x

ShutUpandDrinkYourGin Mon 12-Oct-09 22:57:46

we don't have children yet but DP is keen to have at least one son, though I've questioned him on this and he says he would be very happy with daughters

I think the thing for him is that he's only got brothers and has no real experience of little girls but has a little godson he adores - it's a lack of experience really

paddyclamp Mon 12-Oct-09 22:58:31

DH really wanted a boy when DS was born..he tried to hide it but admitted it one night when drunk! He was soooooooo proud and happy when DS arrived and i love watching the 2 of them do "boy" things together

Having said that he really dotes on DD who arrived 2 years later too smile

lola0109 Mon 12-Oct-09 22:59:07

We have DD and DC2 on the way. I was convinced DP wanted a boy first time round but he was adament he was fine either way. He has since admitted he was glad it was a girl as he wouldn't know what to do with a boy, raised with his mum and 2 sisters and no real male role model.

My sister had my nephew at same time we had DD and DP says now he would be more confident if it was a boy but he would love another girl if it was like DD!! God i couldn't cope with two DD's! DD1 is so independent, cheeky, bossy...just like her mum

Georgimama Mon 12-Oct-09 22:59:29

DH initially wanted a daughter. He got a son who he adores.

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