Sorry for the long post and I know I probably sound slightly cuckoo but I just wondered if any other Mumsnetters had experiences they could share as it might make me feel a wee bit better...
This is my second pregnancy and as with our first my DH and I don't want to find out gender before birth. We already have a wonderful little boy and deep down I don't really mind whether we end up with pink or blue this time but I worry that if I know too long in advance I will dwell on what I won't be having rather than what I am. I know that on the day this little bundle is born all thoughts of 'I may never have a little girl' or 'DS1 may never have a brother' will fly out the window and for that reason I've always wanted to save the big reveal until the day itself! However... I've been obsessed with trying to guess the gender online and have looked at everything from nub theories to chinese calendars and the colour of my pee! My nosiness was all in good fun I thought until my big 20 week scan came round...
We made it very clear to the u/s tech when we arrived that we didn't want to know gender but she was training someone in the room with us and so the scan took alot longer than with my DC1. Towards the end I couldn't stop myself from trying to look for gender clues and was actively looking for them when hey presto... I am sure that on multiple occasions I saw a winkle! I didn't say anything there and then because I didn't want to hear her confirm what I'd seen and have the surprise I'd been desperately craving ruined for me. When we left the scan though my DH said that he also thought he'd seen boy bits which threw me into a total panic that there was no more team green gender guessing fun to be had, and only team blue certainty now.
Once we had a chance to chat about it we realised that my DH and I both think we saw something very different. He thinks he saw a white shadow between the legs on the full length shots, I think I saw a winkle every time she panned up the spine. I also thought I saw a meat and two veg in the potty shot when the u/s tech said she was having difficulty seeing the bladder as bub may have just gone to the loo. On reflection though the boy bits I thought I saw were about the same length as the entire baby's bottom so I'm guessing I may have been mistaken at that point!!
So... my long winded question is has anyone else been convinced they knew gender after a 20 week ultrasound and been proved wrong? Are there other things that can look like a dangling winky at a 20 week scan? And if we were adamant about not wanting to know gender how likely is it that the u/s tech would have lingered on areas that were going to give the game away? It's not that I want this baby to be a girl (although up until the scan that's what my instincts were telling me it would be) it's just that I want to get back the excitement I felt from believing there was still a really clear chance this could go either way.
I've got myself in such a hormonal pickle over this and have been so down the last few days worrying that my curiosity got the better of me. I wish I'd never even started looking at all the nub theory pictures as I now feel like I'm an armchair ultrasound expert and therefore find it even harder to try and just forget what I think I saw. Please help if you have any similar experiences because right now I feel like I ruined Chrsitmas by snooping for my presents. I just desperately want to believe that there's still a 50/50 chance and I can spend the next four months guessing and picking names in the same carefree way I was before last week's scan.
Sorry this is so long and sounds a bit ridiculous - I know we've not been told anything for certain and that this is all based on guesswork on my part but i guess my nickname says it all... XX
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Think I may have seen gender at scan - has surprise been ruined?!!
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MuddledMum · 12/10/2009 10:10
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