Am 39 years of age and 20 weeks through a much wanted pregnancy. For the last 4 weeks I've been experiencing pelvic girdle pain which my GP has diagnosed as SPD. It's been pretty awful (nerve pain in buttocks / hips / pubic bone etc) and I've been signed off work. I've tried to cope as best I can and have been referred to the local Physio Dept. However, I'm getting terribly depressed about it all - not only am I suffering from poor sleep due to pain, but I'm feeling like a complete failure - all my friends have sailed through pregnancy and enjoyed most of it and I have to make a drama out of it. I stagger around the house, struggling to even make my lunch let alone anything else. Not sure what advice I'm after - I suppose I just want reassurance that I'm not alone and not going to be a hopeless mother when the little one arrives.
You have my sympathy I am the same and I just feel so crap some days - I also have a toddler and have become almost house bound because it hurts too much to lift her in and out of her car seat and we can't walk very far. Its so upsetting that my last couple of months of being with just dd before the new one comes along are being "spoilt"
On the plus side (!), after reading lots of advice on this website, I have been recommended a physio and am really hopeful that she will be some help. I was also referred by midwife but the one I saw previously wasn't any help.
Depending on where you are, I'd be happy to contact you with her details ?
Don't feel a failure though - honestly - its quite a common problem. The lack of sleep is hideous though and makes everything seem worse
I had SPD - it was horrible, made me into an invalid. I had physio in pregnancy which did help, also wore a support belt and and slept with a pillow between my knees.
I got much better quickly after I had DS. Within a week of leaving hospital I could walk much further and move more easily. It did linger with me, I had to have more physio and keep wearing the support belt for more than a year.
BUT I had a velcro baby and had to have him in a sling all the time. This was good for attachment but bad for pelvis.
I do know others mums who had worse SPD than I did (on crutches) who bounced back much more quickly.
Don't feel a failure its just the luck of the draw. And it will have no effect on the calibre of mum you will be. (I am fantastic
just wanted to say your not alone so dont feel a failure please!
i escaped it with dd1 dd2 it was awful and i was depressed on top of it i was induced 2 weeks early and now i am almost 30wks with ds1! and its really kicked in next step wld be crutches which i am trying to avoid tbh
God, don't feel a failure. Every pregnancy and every woman is different, and it has no bearing whatsoever on what sort of mother you will be. If anything maybe your hormones are just so fabulously effective that your pelvis is loosening up brilliantly and you will have a fantastically straightforward birth!
You're not a failure at all, just dealing with some extra stuff. I was banned from commuting at 23 weeks and thanks to the internet hibernated happily mostly until giving birth, and physically recovered exceptionally quickly from the birth, from the SPD in a fortnight, and at 3 months thanks to lots of walking practice, was OK again having built up my muscles.