had 34 wk apt with mw today. Raised concerns again about how this baby bump is so much bigger than first two. She measured and bump is spot on 34 weeks, however she did say 'ooh its had a bit of a growth spurt' after marking it on growth graph. The she sais if it continues to spurt like this then she will refer me for a scan, or if I get to 38 weeks and am measuring 40 because head should engage so measurements lower, at which point I mentioned that its my 3rd and 2nd didnt engage until labour induced so always possible this one may not engage either! She also said 'oh I think it will be a good size'!
None of this is reasuring me in any way. She wont send me for a scan now, her explanations are contradictory and my only other option is to pay private which after already spending about £500 on private scans we cannot afford.
I know everyone says that big babies are no harder to deliver etc etc, but both mine were under 7.5lbs, and <whispers> my nether regions still look like they did when I was 18! I dont want to be dragging my lady bits behind me like a feckin handbag Plus Im also pretty small, usully a size 8 and weigh between 7.5-8stone. I dont think my body will be capable of delievring a 10lb baby. I dont mind it being up to 8.5lbs but any bigger than that and Id worry about him getting stuck or tearing me from one end to the other.
I don't have any personal experience, am pregnant with my first, but will say that I was watching a birthing program earlier (this is my life, now..!) and the woman was HUGE. Litterally, giant. They thought the baby was going to be so big that they decided to do an elective.
Baby weighed 6lb5oz - she just had a lot of fluid!
I'm a terrible hypocryte, as I posted a similar post a while ago, but do try not to worry
piprabit you are way off the mark with my DH, he says 'dont worry love it wont have far to stretch' I meant to look at, not in size as I am sure after two already it is deffo not same size as it was when I was 18, but it still looks nice (IYKWIM and read the 'porn lips' thread)
Share your concerns with your midwife. They are valid, so don't feel bad about it. I too am quite small, though not as small as you. I weigh eight and a half stone and am 5 foot 5. The DR told me my baby would be big, and that I should prepare for a very long labour. She wasn't wrong. 36 hours later, I had an emergency C section. My dd was nearly 10 lb. My DH's side of the family is pretty heavy: all my MIL's kids were 9 or 10lbs. I still think I'd never have been able to birth a 10lb baby myself, even though everyone says anyone can give birth to any baby, regardless of size. I tried, I really did, but next time I'm going for an elective cs. Anyway, good luck to you.
thank you sunny for that post - not nice for you obviously, but good to hear that my concerns are real and that not everyone can deliver their baby. I am also getting increasingly concerned with the position of the baby, she said she wasnt sure, and then said she thought he was head down, but Im getting kicks all over the place so cant quite work out where baby is, although my bump looks pretty perfect so not transverse I dont think. The scan is becoming more and more appealing, even if it puts my mind at rest slightly, i know its not an exact indication of anything but would be better than nothing (knowing breech or not, or fairly large or not)
I have to say too, I didn't know how strange everything would look after an epi...it's not nice. But, you can have plenty of trouble with a csection, from weird scar tissue to puckered scars to ingrown hairline (not to forget, they do sever all your abdominals...). So who knows. Fact is, there ain't no easy way out unless you get lucky. Another fact is that you'll have plenty of other things to think about once you little angle is around.
yep agree with most posts tbh, mine is a similar story, told at a scan it would be a 10lb "or more" baby, convinced into induction "you're only 5'3"" etc etc and out popped an 8lb9 baby and a swimming pool sized amount of fluid. having said all that - i think you've already made your mind up and want a scan. in which case i'm not going to tell you not to. but you are measuring 34wks at 34 wks and you have another 6wks to go. so plenty of things can (and probably will) happen. i'm not sure hearing a lot of other stories about big/little babies will make you feel better though? i hope they do... you could just trust your body that it knows what it's doing? you never know, it might?!