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Terrified of giving birth to a big baby ............... please tell me what to do )-:

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mosschops30 Mon 21-Sep-09 10:59:34

Am 33 wks pg with no.3. Have 'bloomed' right from the start and am much bigger than with previous 2, although I know thats normal.
I have now put on 2.5stone shock which is a lot for me (was 8stone and size 8 pre pregnancy), have always been thin.
I havent put on weight anywhere other than the bump, from behind I look exactly the same, but my chest has increased by 6 inches and the bump is mahoosive. Everyone comments on it angry

I have spoken to my MW about it, but she says Im measuring perfect for dates, although I know that measurinG a bump is not an exact science. She said she would refer me for a scan if i measured 2cm or more out either way.

So I dont know what to do, am terrified that this baby is going to be 10lbs and that my nether regions will never be the same again, and that I wont be able to get the baby out!
I cant afford/justify another private scan (we had 3 at start of pregnancy) as its £120. My only other option is to beg sonographer at hospital to squeeze me in for a scan (I am staff) but even thats a long shot.

Any advice or comforting stories would be good please smile

alana39 Mon 21-Sep-09 11:02:22

How big were your other 2, mosschops?

mosschops30 Mon 21-Sep-09 11:06:12

dd was 6lbs 11oz
ds was 7lbs 7.5ozs

so little tiddlers really smile

savoycabbage Mon 21-Sep-09 11:07:24

I put on almost 4 stone with my dd2. My MW was constantly pressing me and measuring me with her tape measure and telling me she was huuuuuge. She was tiny. Not my midwife. She was of an average build, my dd2 was 6 pounds 9.

She was quite long which might explain why they thought she was massive. She was smaller than my first dd. I put on LOADS of weight but sadly it was pies.

Picante Mon 21-Sep-09 11:09:33

You're not going to have a 10 pounder with your other two weighing that. Don't panic. And if worst comes to worst you'll be fine - I gave birth to a 10 pound 7.5 ounce baby girl with no pain relief... your body will cope.

P.S. all my measurements were 'perfect for dates' as well... wink

Restrainedrabbit Mon 21-Sep-09 11:13:27

My DD was 7lbs 15.5 oz and DS was 9lbs 13oz shock, DDs birth was 28hrs and Dss 2.5 hours - pushing took about 3mins second time round and I only had a couple of stitches. I'll tell you which birth I preferred - DSs.

Oh and my bump was tiny with DS so it doesn't always follow.

mosschops30 Mon 21-Sep-09 11:13:49

<wails> but Im scaaaarrrreeedddddd!!!!!! sad wink

My body will not adjust to pushing a 10lb baby out.
Surely if it was all food I would have put weight on elsewhere?

Restrainedrabbit Mon 21-Sep-09 11:14:14

Oh and I had homebirths with just G&A and a pool both times

Restrainedrabbit Mon 21-Sep-09 11:16:16

*Yes it will* can I recommend some sort of relaxation/hypnobirthing class? Might help you to feel mentally ready.

Don't forget even if they do scan you they don't always get the weight and size right, my friend was told that her baby was too small - expect around 5lbs - he came out at a healthy 7lbs. The same goes the other way round.

Summerfruit Mon 21-Sep-09 11:18:15

Well I was told that I was having a second average baby after giving birth to a 9 pounds 15 DD1. I ended up giving birth to a 10 pounds 6 dd2 and it was a homebirth, my fanjo never recovered blush

You will be fine, maybe you have a little extra amniotic fluid? I was mahoosive with ds mainly because I had more water than was 'usual', nothing to worry about, but it did make me big, I put on 4 stone, but he was 7lb 11oz.

I didn't really put it on anywhere else just bump and boobs, though I do think when you get to the tail end of pg your tits and belly are so freakishly huge that every thing else looks tiny by comparison, so everyone says 'you haven't really put in on anywhere else have you dear? But just look at your monster bump, it must be twins/due NOW/ an elephant'.

Oh and I read your thread title as 'pig baby' and thought this was some kind of swine flu panicgrin.

mosschops30 Mon 21-Sep-09 11:26:29

lol @ pig baby grin

summerfruit - thats my fear, that I will not retain my designer vagina lol grin

belgo Mon 21-Sep-09 11:29:05

Please don't worry. It's unlikely your baby will be that big, especially as your first two were average or small.

My first two babies were also just over 7lbs, and I was very nervous that my third baby would be huge because I was so big at the end of the pregnancy.

He was 8 and a half pounds - bigger then my other two, but also the easier to give birth to, he was out in two pushes - because of his size, gravity helped and he came out very easily, with just a small tear. I gave birth to him on my hands and knees - that really is the best position to give birth in.

Try not to worry!

Lizzylou Mon 21-Sep-09 11:30:02

DS2 was 10lbs 11oz, my vagina has not suffered fr it one iota.

Bizarre I know, but because he was ventouse with nice straight cuts, and because I panicked so much about pelvic floor (MWs were v insistent about them due to DS2's size), I think it is now better than before.

Worry not, it'll be fine (and prob just water anyways).

mumof2teenboys Mon 21-Sep-09 11:35:06

My DS2 was 10 lb.

My DS1 was 8lb 8oz.

The second was so much easier to give birth to, the first was 70 odd hour labour followed by forceps delivery. The second was 7 hours with no pain relief. I'm convinced that gravity helped!

My lady bits grin are fine, no complaints anyway.

Restrainedrabbit Mon 21-Sep-09 13:42:47

My fanjo is still fabulous grin I have better orgasms than ever before (TMI!!?), my MW said larger babies are easier to birth than little ones because of the effect of gravity.

Repeat after me: I Will Be Fine grin

ShowOfHands Mon 21-Sep-09 13:47:31

My Mum put on 5 stones when pg with me. Her bump was mahoosive. Incredible. Was told I would be a whopper. Yes, all 5lbs of me. smile

I was similar when pg with dd, I was huge, whale like, having been a size 8 and eating healthily/exercising through pregnancy. DD was 7lbs 12oz. An average size baby who got very, very, very, very stuck and needed a lot of help to be born. All due to PROM and luck, nowt to do with her weight.

Weight is not a worry usually. In fact bigger babies are anecdotally easier from most stories on MN. Head circumference is of more interest I believe.

IsThisNameTaken Mon 21-Sep-09 13:49:27

DD was 7lbs 8oz and took 18 hours and lots of stiches. DS was 10lbs 2oz and flew out in 2.5 hours, no stiches, and everything back to normal very quickly!

I doubt yours will be that big given the size of your other two, but bigger doesn't mean more difficult or painful in my experience.

HKmama Thu 24-Sep-09 12:31:52

I was told right through my pregnancy that the baby was "huge", 90th percentile with an enormous head. I had plenty of scans including a 4-d which they insisted were very accurate. I was absolutely terrified and nearly went for an elective c-section. Suffice to say that ds, now 5 months, weighed a very normal 7lbs 12oz and I delivered him naturally. I also put on 2 and a half stone and looked huge. Hang in there and good luck

Comma2 Thu 24-Sep-09 23:02:01

Totally agree with all, I gained 50 lbs and was told I would have a huge baby and hence csection for sure, then had lovely normal birth and 7 lb 9 oz dd. Not to worry.

Also agree that it just looks like its all belly and boobs, once belly deflates you'll see it most certainly isn't. grin

BiscuitStuffer Fri 25-Sep-09 06:29:55

oh god I really wouldn't worry - DC1 was 7 ish and DC2 was 9 lbs 4oz and it was FAR easier with No. 2 AND he had a mahoosive head! I wondered whether him weighing more actually helped him to come out - gravity is your friend and all that.

BiscuitStuffer Fri 25-Sep-09 06:30:29

Oh and I used to weigh the same as you and my pelvis is quite narrow

somethinganything Fri 25-Sep-09 09:17:35

FWIW - agree that bump size bears v little relationship to baby size. I'm also a slight build, had a teeny bump first time round and put on maybe 20lbs. Was sent for 3 extra scans because they thought she wasn't growing properly and in the end she was a hearty 8lbs. (EMCS so can't comment on the fanjo situation but am probably going to go for VBAC this time and really hoping that I don't follow the 'babies get bigger each time trend.)

Could it just be that your body is really 'familiar' with pregnancy now so your tummy has popped out more? sorry, not a v scientific explanation

Besom Fri 25-Sep-09 09:24:20

I was also really huge. I put on 4 stone and there is a family history of ginormo babies and we all have trouble getting hats big enough to fit us. I too was rather apprehensive.

But dd was only 6lb 1oz.

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