I was worried about going into labour since...ooh, probably since I found out where babies came from! It is hard to reassure you as everyone has such different experiences, but all I can say is I wish I hadn't spent so much time worrying. Equip yourself with information but don't worry; there is little you can do to affect things and it will all be over before you know it. I was terrified of tearing, it sounded awful, but I didn't even feel it when it happened (I had diamorphine and gas and air for pain relief). You will be fine.
It's actually DC3, so unfortunately it's real memories that are worrying me, rather than the unknown, iykwim
I think I'm more worried this time round as I'm more aware of what can go wrong, plus I've been so fecking busy recently that I've not been thinking much about being pg (or labour) so I'm just not feeling ready.
SpawnChorus (love your name, BTB, so apt ), would it help to remind yourself that every labour/delivery is different? If the reasons for previous less than ideal deliveries are not present in this pregnancy you might have a totally different experience, you just never know.. I suppose this not-knowing you'll have to make your peace with. Very best of luck !!
SpawnChorus is it your first? I gave birth & months ago and even though I have a 7-year-old I was freaking out for a good few months before a due date. Really, really anxious. The day came...and I was so relaxed, took a long bath, went for a walk, DP panicking,and in the evening, just before going to the hospital, managed to beat him in Scrabble( making breaks every 5 min for contractions). Once I got to the hospital it was FINE. You're so high on all the hormones that there really is no comparison with, say, dentist or other everyday pain. Really. I hate pain, I hate dentists etc., but I was fine (had epidural at the very end). Stitching -barely registered it because had brand new DD in my arms! Don't worry about anything bad happening- hospitals are very well equipped to deal even with the scary stuff, which is very unlikely to happen anyway. Good luck and keep us updated!