My period is 5 days late, I feel nauseous all the time (I gagged when cuddling DS2 because he smelt of toast). My nipples feel like they have nails through them!
I've not done a test yet because I'm not sure how I feel about the result, and I want to get my head straight.
We were trying for a baby, but after a long talk we decided to stop trying as we'd both changed our minds. This was 2 weeks ago, and it now seems it's too late! Typical. (I'd say ironic, but it's annoy the pedants!)
Does anyone have any advice? Sorry for rambling on, my head is messed up!
It's hard to explain really.There are lots of reasons. Money is a big one...not that we're money grabbing, but we've been very skint for 5 years now (since I was pregnant with DS1). We were just getting out of that and having a little more freedom, and realised how much we enjoy not having to count every penny. There are also other things we want to do: travelling, further study...which would have to be put back if we had a new baby.
It's one of those situations where my heart is longing for another baby, but my head thinks it's a stupid idea.
You sound just like us before we found out I was preg. Got used to 8 YO DD being a bit more independant, I'd started studying again, we'd got used to the fact it was just going to be the three of us and weren't that bothered about TTC. So it came as a bit of a shock to find I was after so long trying!
I'm now 22 wks and all the hormones have died down, and I can't wait to see our new DD. Money comes, money goes, anything we have to put back because of the baby doesn't seem that important any more compared with having that new person in our family. If it was only 2 wks ago you'd decided not to, that's not too much of a hurdle to overcome.
If the test is positive, the things you're worrying about can be overcome, but that's just my opinion. I hope it goes well for you
I assume you always wanted another baby as a brother/sister for your first born? at least this way you can get your lives back sooner afterwards rather than starting again in a few years. There is never an ideal time, and if you wanted it at some point anyway it might as well be now! Thats what im doing anyway am 10wks with DC2 and DS1 is 3.5!! good luck
I'm in a really similar situation - contraception failed, and DH is booked for the snip in two weeks time....number 4 is now on the way and I'm in bits about it, although slowly working my head around it all. As DH said, in percentage terms, adding another baby isn't that big a deal ...but adding a fourth set of uni fees, four sets of shoes/uniforms, making four lunchboxes each day....eeek!!
I want to say congratulations, but I've not felt like being congratulated - so perhaps hugs and commmiserations, and congrats if you want them - I hope that we'll both be feeling more positive come April/May time!!