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cyphercat · 28/08/2009 20:12

I'm only about three months pregnant and I don't really crave sex at the moment. I do mentally but then I don't want to physically if that makes sense. If we do it, I feel a bit violated and really bothered afterwards...??? Does that make sense?? Does anybody else feel that way? Or is it just my pregnancy hormones messing with my head.

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mumcah · 29/08/2009 12:19

Pregnancy hormones do all sorts of weird things with our emotions.
I couldn't bear the thought of it in my last pregnancy in the 2nd and 3rd trimester.It seemed like the weirdest thing in the world so we didn't do it.

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Littlepurpleprincess · 29/08/2009 12:24

that's exactly how I felt! Violated. It was so strange, I thought it was just me.

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RFCMummy · 29/08/2009 12:33

We have managed it about once a week throughout pregnancy (have dd's aged 2 and 3 which make it harder to find time!) But now at 33 weeks I have spd and so much pressure and pain in my pelvis that I think that will be it until after baby. I really crave normal sex though where I am slim again and feel desireable!!

I feel sorry that DH will miss out for a few weeks but don't think I could manage it now!

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MrsMattie · 29/08/2009 12:35

Totally went off sex throughout both of my pregnancies. It was a tough time.

I'd say concentrate on intimacy, cuddles, massage etc, because 9 months (or a year, really, if you include the period after birth) is a long time not to be physically close. I regret not making more of an effort, because it's taken a long time to get our sex life back on track, and it's had all sorts of implications for our relationship.

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HidingFromTheDM · 29/08/2009 12:36

I must be abnormal ladies. I absolutely craved sex when I was pregnant, especially in my 2nd and 3rd trimester (although I suspect the 3rd trimester urges had more to do with kickstarting labour and less to do with desire ).

And no, I didn't have a very high sex drive before getting pregnant (nor now, much to the horror of my dh).

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cyphercat · 29/08/2009 20:17

Wow I thought I was the weird but it's nice to know that other ladies feel the same. I suppose my body thinks it's all doing this for baby. My last pregnancy I couldn't bring myself to have sex for 6 months after while I was breastfeeding and it was painful as well if we tried. Thank you for posting.